Unemployed but secretly TTC
Posted Mar 2, 2013 by anonymous | 386 views | 6 comments
I'm in IT, but unemployed for almost a year. My fiancée works retail part-time. While we're in no position financially to support a child right now, her getting pregnant would help ease her depression, and likely get my butt in gear to better our situation, so we've been trying to conceive. It's only been 2-3 months, but she gets more depressed each failed month. Despite finances, we'd make great parents. I very much want to knock her up so that she doesn't hurt anymore.
Commented Mar 4, 2013 by anonymous
You must be thinking about your finances before making her pregnant.
Commented Mar 2, 2013 by anonymous
Her mother, who was also her best friend, died suddenly and unexpectedly in the night 4 years ago. My fiancee blames herself for letting her die, because she was the last one to see her alive, and also the one to find her dead. Additionally, her family are all horrible people. Her brother stole the diamond ring I gave her and pawned it for drug money, like he bragged about doing with their aunt's ring 2 years prior. Her father was a good provider, but completely ineffectual as a parent. The mother was the only one to keep the brother in check. Her grandmother, in whose house they all live for the past couple years, is a verbally abusive alcoholic. Her mother's sisters and mother are all elitist snobs. Her mother's brother is also a criminal, currently serving a prison sentence for murder, and her mother's father was in gangs when he was young. Her mother somehow came out to be a great and decent person. I never met her mother, but I've heard a ton of stories from a lot of people who knew her, and no one possibly had an unkind word to say about her. She was one of those rare gems of people that was always available to help with people's problems, even if they weren't friends or family. Her door was always open, to anyone who needed help, or just wanted to stop by. I tried bringing my fiancee to a psychologist, but he was ineffective, and she didn't feel comfortable talking to him. I tried to find a woman psychologist, but there's so few who are local, take her insurance, and have availability. Plus, she's much more apprehensive about trying that again. I try to do everything I can for her. She's always wanted to be a mother, so even though our situation isn't very good, that's still one thing that is pretty much sure to help her.
Commented Mar 2, 2013 by anonymous
If she thinks she's depressed now just wait until she has an infant to take care of. the child may drive her nuts with all the crying and screaming going on. she needs help before deciding to bring a baby into this mad world.
Commented Mar 2, 2013 by anonymous
Please help your gf to get therapy. A baby won't fix anything.
Commented Mar 2, 2013 by anonymous
You're clearly not man enough to get the job done. I think you need to call in a real man who can fuck your GF properly and make her belly big. Why hasn't she kicked your sorry ass to the curb?
Commented Mar 2, 2013 by anonymous
Why is she hurting if u dont mind me asking?