Recently I have had a growing interest in what I learned is called "Domestic Discipline". This is where one person in the relationship (male or female) is the head of the household and basically enforces a set of rules that the couple mutually agrees on. By enforces I mean when the rules are broken there are a series of concequences that are administered to the person who isn't the head of the household (I can't remember the name and I don't want to say submissive because that term isn't completely accurate) Anyway, the concequences range anywhere from corner time to spankings ( I know, it sounds childish right?) So, why do I feel the desire to be treated this way, I am a woman in her 20's and yes I make mistakes and feel the need to correct them but I know I can probably do those things without the help of domestic discipline, but chances are I will procrastinate doing them. I find my desire odd mainly because it isn't a sexual thing for me I am not interested in BDSM or spanking type things for sexual reasons and I would be perfectly okay admitting if I was. The fact is, spanking and disciplining for sexual reasons seems like it is missing a crucial pieces, I wouldn't be able to take it seriously. Personally, it's just not my thing. Having said this, I also must say that I feel embarrassed admitting to my husband that I want to live a domestic discipline lifestyle for a few reasons. 1. It is looked upon these days as "weird" or even "abuse" 2. It means I have identified problem with myself that I need help in. 3. I would be seen as wanting to be submissive (which I have never been) 4. It is just plain "wrong" in some people's opinion or even considered sexist. Something even more personal: There was a time about a year ago that I had done something that really pissed him off (I can't remember what) He bend me over his knee and after a good two minutes of me putting up a fight he spank me! The funny this is, after my entire paragraph about wanting to be disciplined I wrote above when I think back to the one time he did that I RESISTED! I didn't know how to feel about it during the actual spanking part, I was pissed and embarrassed, is this how you're supposed to feel I guess if it's not sexual then: yes, right? After the spanking was over I actually felt a bit better though because our entire fight just ceased, we were no longer fighting! No more fighting for hours on end about something stupid, no more name calling, and calling out each other's flaws. Literally, he spanked me, it hurt, and I thought about how I was acting and stopped. We never fought about that same thing again, and never spoke of the spanking after that. Now when we fight it tends to be for hours on end! My point in all this rambling is, I am wondering if this domestic discipline thing could work, but how in the world do you approach something like this? If your wife, or girlfriend had an interest in something like this would you totally HATE her for it, or think she was CRAZY? What is wrong with me? Why do I feel like this? Please keep in mind I am sensitive to this subject so please try to keep your bashing of me to a minimum, thanks. Any advice helps.