listen to yourself not others only you know what you want dont do something that you might regret just tell him that He makes you laugh and that he is kind and loving and then tell him that you dont want to marry him and that you still want to friends. but dont leave him standing at the altar waiting for you if you decide not to marry him. theres a movie that i like to watch its called mulan and mulan says ti "listen to your heart" hope that helps

do NOT marry him if you feel nothing. Do NOT listen to those telling you to marry someone you don't love! This isn't the 1700s! Don't leave him at the alter though. you'll scar him for life.

bullshit. learn to love the guy. anyone over 50 will tell you that how married people used to allways do it, and they worked at it to make it work. but jh christ somewhere along the line everyone is convinced that every marriage has to be perfect to the one millionth degree and an everyday parade of orgasmic bliss.

Foul.

I think your better off telling him. With words. The suspense and confusion will only hurt the poor boy.

ladies if you think you man will not cheat.. think again. marry him be the good wife and be the good lover to someone else. makes happier unions.

marry him and have safe affairs.

are you crazy even people in love eventually want to kill each other don't do it i predict total disaster dont do it

I was in the same situation. I realized I didn't love my bride to be (well, I do love her, but I'm not 'in love' with her) and I cancelled the wedding with about 4 months to go. I almost went through with it 'so I wouldn't hurt her,' but I knew I'd hurt her even more if I subjected her to a life without true love. We should never settle for anything less. I feel awful that it took me so long to realize it, and I know she can never forgive me for breaking her heart, but I know that one day she will find a man who will want her, and cherish her and love her the way she deserves to be loved. She's a special person, but just not the person I am meant to be with. I hope you told your guy earlier than the day before the wedding. He deserved to know the moment you were sure that you weren't in love, so that he could be free to start his journey to the one he's meant to be with.

im kinda in the same situation except i got married last year when i was 22, I like my wife and stuff shes a great woman shes so sweet and the most caring person. but my feelings for her aint big where i can say i trully love her. we dont think alike nor we like the same stuff and we often disagree on a lot of stuff where i tell my self that shes not the one for me neither I im the one for her but we are married now and i dont know what to do, i go on everyday wishing i was single cause i have an old friend from high school which we bump into each other at the store not to long ago and my heart skips beats and beats fast when i see her and talk to her. i feel like shes the gorgeous woman i ever seen we think alike we have the same tastes everything same goals and shes into me also but she wont do anything with me cause i have someone 'smart woman' but the thing is i dont know what to do we have problems that have gone so far close to a divorce but i cant do it i dont have the balls to end this, it hurts when my mind tells me something but my heart something else

I actually feel bad for this guy :(....Marriage is a serious commitment though. On one hand, he'll be crushed finding out that you don't love him. On the other, if you hypothetically went through with it, chances are it wouldn't last because you would feel resentment towards him, and probably make him feel like he's the one who made you go through with it, and you're likely going to cheat or something and hurt him. The best thing I could say is to tell him the truth before both your names are on that dotted line....

what the fuck are you talking about here people ? :S damn it

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I hope you haven't gone through with the wedding. If he's not the one for you then run for the hills. The western woman has more choices than this in 2012.

You're right, you really shouldn't get married and I'm glad you are not going to go through with it. Sounds like you have eyes open to the world around you and are ready to experience more of it before you get hitched. However please do make the announcement asap so that if anyone was planning to travel to your wedding they don't make an unncessary trip! And yes to start by telling your fiance. I'm sure he is a great person and a couple years from now he will be glad you had the courage to call it off.

I agree.

Bail, don't do it. Or at least delay the wedding.

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Go with your gut feeling, but give the guy the respect he deserves and let him know now.

You are very sad person! Dont hurt the man because you feel like time is passing you by. im not telling you to let your dreams go away. but he is probably dreaming of a life with a wife that love him and together to form a family. and you are ruining that.

His only crime was to love you enough to ask you to marry him. You deserve your dreams. Don't humiliate him. Don't make him feel small so you can dream big.

I hope you actually stopped the marriage. Even if you left him at the altar it would've been better than marrying someone you don't truly love. If only I'd have done that with my ex I'd have saved myself years of heartache.

Ever notice how no one ever says 'I'm glad I got married,' its always 'I wish i never got married?' Don't do it, don't waste any of you life in a marriage you don't want. NEVER SETTLE!!

JESUS CHRIST, so you juts come up with the filthiest thing you can think of? didn't anyone teach you to be polite? especially when someone is saying something private and sensitive? I can only believe that an immature juvenille delinquent from a poor family with no class would say what you just said. That is just awful, you are gross.

good for you!!! what ever it takes to get out of a loveless relationship without cheating or killing someone. go to vegas!!!

Tell the poor guy beforehand. You will only be hurting him and everyone who bothered to help with the wedding. Everyone has the right to choose who they want to be with and everyone is entitled to knowing the truth. But, I agree with you trying to follow your dreams, just not suddeningly up and leaving and hurting people.

You nver achieved nothing in your life you dumassb farm girl. You wanted to be famous and spent most of your years in a fucking dream world. Even your wedding is a fuck up. You are a fucked up and should never get married because you are are a loser. Stick to giving your farm animals blowjobs. That's what you backward farm people do anyway. IDIOT !!!

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Wow! I am so proud of you for the fact that you are going to wait for someone to love instead of like. I myself have given up on love, up i look up to those who haven't. I hope you made the right decision, and you are happy in the end :)

fairy tales sometimes are toxic to the mind but if you dont love the person you dont love the person and the longer it goes the deeper the net drags and the more shits in the cast

Wow, just tell him because if you wait to long, you will just cause more problems for everyone.

She's a drama queen. Who the fuck wants to marry someone like that anyway? She's doing him a favor.

queen of the queen is in ur heart............do wat ur hrt says...listen to none.....may all the blessing come to u

RUN! RUN! RUN! EXCAPE NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!!! YOU ONLY HAVE YOURSELF TO LOSE AND THAT IS TOO PRECIOUS.

Poor guy. And poor you, actually. I really hope it all turned out OK.

My wife didn't love me but she married me anyway......

It's over a week now. I hope you followed your heart. While I think it's terrible to be leaving your groom late in the preparation for the wedding, I'm still all for following your heart. It's never too late to stop yourself a world of hurt. Sure, it looks selfish at first glance but I pray the groom will look back after years and see that it's not so terrible. Or did you go ahead with the wedding?

If you like him at all you'll be a decent human being and be honest with him. Don't be a coward or else you'll be feeling like this for eternity.

love will come gradually, if you have even the slightest feelings towards him stay and marry him

You have gone too far now girl. The longer you wait, the more problematic it will be

better to be straight with him and spare him the pain of finding out the other way.

Please, spare him the embarrassment. Tell him beforehand.