3NL5lm I appreciate you sharing this blog.Really thank you! Keep writing.

I think cheating is wrong, only in the sense that the other person does not know and therefor have a say in what is happening to their own bodies. If you are poly then your wife has a right to know that so that SHE can make a choice for herself.

it's not betrayl..it's about getting one's needs fulfilled and feeling good about it. People can get a massage once a week but can't have great sex once a month? Really if it's done without hurting anyone society should not frown on this..does posting on a confession site mean one feels guilty?

Thanks for the comment...being careful is job #1....we've stopped this before but always come back when the urge is there..great sex is better than any drugs...why can't society just accept multiple lovers without love.

I am am beyond amazed you have gotten away with this for as long as you have. As with anything, luck eventually runs out and you two are way, way overdue. Get your affairs in order (no pun intended) and quit while you are still ahead. Or.....maybe you have reached a point where you no longer care if you get caught? Two marriages destroyed is not my idea of having fun. Then, we haven't even addressed the potential for violence when the spouses find out.

You must have guilty about that. You betrayal with your wife, you cheat her. Your are sexual addicted man. You don't have control your self. You spoiled two life your wife and that woman. You must have talk to your wife and accept your mistake.

I wonder what the heck you are. probably a little bitch or a whore yourself when you try to offend the others. I dont know the confessor but I dont judge the person by just a post. I respect for the confessor to have the strength to burst it out .

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Thank you for your comment. Your answer helped me alot. I have not told anyone about this, not a friend or woman colleague. I won't every do it. I think one of the reasons I chose a black woman is that we are incompatible in real life..our spirits are the same but our religions values etc are so different that we wouldn't last for 2 weeks together and we both know it. Strange that I'm posting this now to a confession site...wonder why..normally I'm ok with the co existence of two seperate situations. We've actually broken up about 10 times...and eventually get back together. Our spirits are so much aligned usually it's just thinking about each other and then the email or text appears. So as age becomes a factor and sex drive gets lower where do I go from here. I think of her as a therapist and justify it that way. the feelings don't have to enter into it just the thought that she makes me a better person is enough. I don't think of the negatives about affairs, lying etc...that can all be overlooked.

Life is always more complex than we are comfortable admitting. I had a brief relationship with a woman about ten years ago. It actually brought me back to life in a sense. I was better to my wife afterward. There was sex, but it was healing to my spirit. Some will call it wrong, and cheating, but I'm grateful it happened. We have since gone our separate ways but I'm thankful it happened. it made me better. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Just be wise and keep it to yourself. It's not a burden anyone else should be forced to share.