The first comment at the bottom is good advice. Tough love works both ways. If your relationship with your family is septic cut them off. Live your own life. Move away and never look back.

I try but its useless against them ..

You must not think of yourself as a garbage part in the family.

ok there are phone coda.org meetings. try it???????

I get what your all saying and I'm thankful for it not being negative. but the sad thing is its not the little stuff that makes me think this. its mostly everything and anything that comes from them. my mother does nothing but yell and blame me for everything (keep in mind I am the baby of the family) and through my brothers I don't even speak to one only threw his gf, even if he's right next to her. the other is like my mother, they always talk about my mistakes my faults. though I think that's what was supposed to happened since I'm still young. I've tried to speak to her about this since I was about 13 and in the end she always made me feel like its my fault and I'm to sensitive over everything.

i'll pray for you honey thats not right..... there is hope for you... www.codependentsanonymous.org or coda.org. you will love it!!! its a blessing to me. my mom just looooves to embarrass me in public. now i will embarress her if she starts. that meeting will help you. it wont take one meeting so try a few or more to feel for it ok? this is only a suggestion. you have to do the work. its worth it believe me. my name is linda email me if you have any questions or concerns: ilovepadrepio68@gmail.com. God bless!! Linda †

there is a group called codependents anonymous dot org or coda.org i go to that meeting and its a blessing. my mom is too controlling and i hate it since i was a toddler. Now we get along alot better and i love my 12 step group. it wont take 1 meeting. take a few or more to understand or feel for it. there are phone meetings also. i have a sponsor i call (friend who supports me morally) and i do the 12 step work. the 4th n 5th steps are my favorite and have been doing this fir 19 years (clean from cocaine), im 51 and still growing up. if you have any questions concerns or want to talk my ears off til i am deaf, honey, i am all ears, 88 of them!! email me ilovepadrepio68@gmail.com. i'm linda, pleased to meet you. keep it simple, a day at a time, like bill wilson n bob smith said after 1935. btw, this is a suggestion only, you have to do the work if you want. ok? god bless. Linda †

I had that feeling as well. My Doctor told me that for my mental wellfare to not spend more 5 minutes with the worst of them. I told them that and now we haven't spoken in years and to be honest it was for the best. They know my life is better with out them and still talk crap hoping it will get back to me through my sister but she doesn't bring the negative crap to me so they fail. It is kind of funny now. Haven't given it any thought in months till now and I am smiling.

Trust me, you're not the only one, we all feel like that sometimes, for me, I live with a big family, my family, my 2 uncles and their families. I never feel like I belong, I'm always sitting alone at home, with my books or whatever, and when I try to belong, or fit in, it doesn't work, all they let me think is that I fucked up.. Sometimes I can't wait till I can get a job, save money and just move out.