I can't tell my fiance what I really want
Posted Mar 30, 2012 by anonymous | 715 views | 10 comments
My goal in life is to get back into the guards, become a volunteer firefighter, and start my own dog grooming business. He's ok with the firefighter because there's not much action around here and he wants to do that as well, but he refuses to let me re-up. The guards was my LIFE before I met him, so I made a decision to wait til we're married and tell him he has no choice. I understand he doesn't want me to deploy and risk losing me, especially when we have kids, but i doubt I'd get deployed if i chose the right MOS in the air national guard. I know it's not quite army like I was, but at least I would feel like a part of something bigger once again. Also, I'm not sure how he'd feel about having random dogs bathed and cut in our brand new house. And once we do decide to have kids, and after my old dad passes, I kind of want to move OUT of the united states, to somewhere healthier with a good cultural background, like Japan, France, or Germany. (I am 3/4 German). I don't think he's going to be ready to move away from his family anytime soon, though.
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
Op wrote this. Damn phone is halfway f*cked.
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
If u were in the military, you would understand my point. Either that, or you're retarded. Im sure your reasons would be SO much better (sarcasm)
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
Seriously? I said ONE of the reasons. I was in the service for FOUR GODDAMN YEARS, I toured overseas! I've talked to him about wanting to re-up and his reasons were because he doesn't want me to get hurt or killed. I understand, but at the same time, I love the military. I've given up enough shit, including my life savings for men. I REFUSE to give up my military career for this one. I love him, and no other man has ever been this good to me, but I still have to take care of myself, too. He cant expect me to lay around all day while he works. Retirement would be nice, im not going to throw away the four years I served so I cant finish off my twenty and get retirement. This country is corrupt, anyway. At least someone WANTS to serve. I bet you aren't in, or if you are
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
Wanting to serve your country doesn't make you selfish. The reasons you want to join the service are...'they have great retirement benefits'... And yes, lying to your husband, then trying to force him to do what you want because you lied to him about the direction you wanted to go in your life...Damn right that's selfish. And wrong. There are no excuses for what you're trying to do to the man you married.
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
Kids* . Not lids.
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
YOU are what gives you a bad name, BTW. This is the OP & I forgot to write this is my previous comment. Suck a dick!
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
Me wanting to join a good cause for our country makes me selfish and manipulative? Holy cow you are more special than the special needs people I take care of at the group home. Wowwza! It's not like I cheated on him, have lids he doesn't know about, or anything even close to the sorts. I'm going to join the Air National Guards. Dumb bitch.
Commented Apr 2, 2012 by anonymous
So you married your husband on false pretences and you're going to give him ultimatims so you get your own way? Wow, you're a real piece of work. Women like you give the rest of us a bad name. I hope you get everything you deserve you lying, manipulative, selfish...
Commented Mar 30, 2012 by anonymous
Future is not in our hand. Plan well hope that life will give you positive results.
Commented Mar 30, 2012 by anonymous
Actually I think I can wait to move out of the U.S., because one of the reasons I'm doing the guards is to have great retirement benefits.