I can't stand my mother.
Posted Aug 19, 2011 by webgurl | 1013 views | 5 comments
Growing up, mom played favorites, I wasn't her favorite, my sister was. She still treats my sister like she's an angel, and she treats me like I'm the devil's spawn. We're going camping this weekend. Mom makes a huge drama every time we attempt to go somewhere. Whether it's going grocery shopping, or going camping, everything is a huge drama when our family attempts to go on a trip. Last night my sister and I had to pay for groceries for camping, (mom didn't pay for any of it.) OK, fine, whatever. But mom borrowed $500 from me in April, and she still owes me $80. I paid $80 for half the groceries last night. If I tried to say anything about anything, mom flips her lid. I told my dad that she borrowed money from me, because she's taken money from me in the past without my permission, and then failed to pay me back. She's also borrowed money from me with my permission, and it took her like 3 years to pay me back. I don't exactly trust my mom with anything. Anyway, when we were in the car, and she was bringing me home, she flat out asked me, "what are you going to report to your dad tomorrow? I'm a Christian, I don't lie. I said that he'd probably ask me, and that if he did, I would tell the truth. Mom said it's none of his business, but... um... he's her husband. If it's anyone's business, it's most likely his. I moved out of my parent's house in 2006, because I couldn't take living there anymore. Mom yelled at me over petty things, things that weren't done her way, (which is perfectly.) I'm glad I don't live in that house because I honestly don't think I'd be alive today. I'm a christian, so I know I have to forgive her, but that's becoming harder and harder lately. Growing up, I got blamed for everything when I was a kid. If my sister did something, she'd lie and say she didn't do it, so I got yelled at and lectured for everything. If we got in a fight, mom would always side with my sister, never me. My dad was always on my side, I love my dad way more than I love my mom. I respect my mom because she's my mother, but that's about it. Mom would always tell me that I'd never become anything more than a receptionist, she always told me that I'd be living in an assisted living facility. She still wants to institutionalize me, she wants me to move into this place for people with developmental disabilities, .
Commented Jul 18, 2014 by anonymous
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Commented Dec 31, 2012 by anonymous
your mom is a typical mom with a daughter and your sister is going to become one of those people that always wants everything and she will end up divorced who knows how many times because of how your mom raised her
Commented Jan 31, 2012 by anonymous
It must be horrible having such a weak and unsatisfying relationship with your mother. I'm technically a christian as well but you seem obsessed with it to me. Just stop lending her money. It might be difficult and you might fall out but at least you no longer have somebody draining you of your financial resources and threatening to institutionalise you. GO GET A LIFE.
Commented Aug 19, 2011 by anonymous
I agree with this poster. I understand and respect that you love your mother because she's your mother but you don't have to 'like' her. If mom won't change and talking to her is pointless, you need to exercise some self preservation. You can be civil to her and associate with your dad and sister but do not allow yourself to be bullied anymore. Remove yourself from any situation that she is going to be in for more than a few minutes. Don't go camping with them. I know it may sound harsh but you need to weigh out what is better for you - verbal and mental abuse from mom or a weekend of memories with your family which will no doubt include emotional and mental abuse from mom. Think about it.
Commented Aug 19, 2011 by anonymous
First of all if your mother didn't ask for your forgiveness, why do you feel compelled to give it. Even if you forgive her, you don't have to forget how she behaves. She's toxic; don't associate with her. Being respectful doesn't mean you have to be available for abuse.