Cheated on BF
Posted Sep 22, 2013 by anonymous | 387 views | 7 comments
First of all: I am gay. But that's not my confession. I've been with my bofriend for a year and a half now, at first everything was really really wonderful. But in the last few weeks he somehow hasn't got any time for me no more. So I asked him if everything is alright and asked him if he ever would cheat on me. He said "No, I never will.Will you?" I said "I won't either." He said "I wouldn't really mind if you'd cheat on me, but just promise me that you will never cheat on me with Nick." I said "I promise." Just for info, Nick is another guy, my best friend. Nick wants to sleep with me for about 2 years now, and secretly I also did want to. I mean, Nick means everything to me, we can tell each other everything, we talk about everything, there are no taboos between him and me. So I've visited Nick three days ago and overnighted at his place. And we both were so drunk, and we both know the other one really wants to f**k with you and everything came down that we ended up in one bed, having sex. That's my confession. And now i feel so bad, normally I really am a faithful person. The thing is, three weeks ago I've wanted to break up with my boyfriend because I think he isn't interested in me anymore (it's a little difficult because it takes me 6 hours to get to his home, we have a long-distance-relationship). But i still love him so much, and i don't know what to do. All this stuff with Nick doesn't make it any easier for me.
Commented Sep 23, 2013 by anonymous
she's already a bitch so the only thing left for karma is aids...
Commented Sep 23, 2013 by anonymous
tell your boyfriend what you did you wouldn't like it if it was the other way around karma is a bitch
Commented Sep 22, 2013 by anonymous
If he's not making an effort to show you that he loves you, after you've told him that you need him to, then he doesn't love you. And if he really did love you (and didn't have a lot of respect for himself) then he might still stay with you after finding out you slept with the one person he asked you not to, but if he's really not that interested in you anymore he definitely won't want to stay with you after finding out. Then again, he probably wouldn't be too broken up about it if he's not in love with you anymore. It's possible that he's just really busy or stressed about something, but I would think he would tell you that when you confronted him about how he has no time for you. Do you really want to fight for something that's just not there? I think you really do want to break up with him, you're probably just scared, which is normal, but you have to do it cause it's not gonna get better.
Commented Sep 22, 2013 by anonymous
1) Because I love him. I really really do, but he gives me the feeling I'm worthless. I've tried SO MANY times to talk to him, to tell him that I need someone who really shows me that I'm loved. But nothing (!) changed and I just can't bear fighting about us any more. 2) I know I could have much worse than being called a jerk. But the point is that I DO NOT want to be called a jerk. I wouldn't call it dates, we're best friends. We both do not want more from each other, but still we both knew we would get "closer" one day.
Commented Sep 22, 2013 by anonymous
Okay if you think you deserve better than him 1) Why are you even with him in the first place? And 2) You're an entitled little shit and he definitely does deserve better. You could have a lot worse than a guy who calls you a jerk and a dork. I don't see why you don't just date Nick you obviously have something more with him.
Commented Sep 22, 2013 by anonymous
I've never seen being drunk as an excuse. The thing is, I've told my BF one week before all that stuff with that other guy happened that I'm not sure anymore if he's making me happy. He knew that I've wanted to break up with him. And if one of the two of us deserves someone better it's definitely me. My BF never wrote me anything in the last month, it has always been me that has done the first step. He's called me a jerk and a dork, and I thinks that's not the way you speak with someone you love.
Commented Sep 22, 2013 by anonymous
Yeah you should break up with him, because he deserves someone who will be faithful to him. Being drunk is not an excuse.