A gay crush on my Youth Minister.
Posted Sep 2, 2014 by anonymous | 344 views | 5 comments
I feel really guilty about this. I am a 13 yo guy who is straight, but I have developed a gay crush on my church's Youth Minister. He is just the nicest man I have ever met. He really kind and he listens to all of us in the Youth Group and gives great advice and life lessons. He's in his early 40's and handsome. A lot of us give him a hug when we see him, but I find myself looking forward to giving him a hug because his hugs feel really warm. Why do I feel this way?? I know i'm not gay, I don't feel attracted to other guys. I just seem to feel something for him.
Commented Sep 3, 2014 by anonymous
thank you for being so nice to me in your response. i was shocked by couple of this comments. i know i'm not gay. im not attracted to other guys. i just really like this man because he so nice. i worry about why i like his hugs so much. to answer your question, NO, im not used to affection like this from any man...my dad, uncles, grandfather are all really into manly type things like hunting and fishing. they never hug me.if i try to give them a hug they say hugging is for sissies
Commented Sep 2, 2014 by anonymous
My helpful suggestion is for this fag to go fuck himself.
Commented Sep 2, 2014 by anonymous
Have you had many interactions with nice men, or is his behavior rare to you? It is possible that what you are identifying as a gay crush could be appreciation and admiration. Sometimes, as men, we grow strong bonds with other men we strongly admire or appreciate. We want to be around them because we long to be like them and possess the characteristics that they have. A good thing to do, might be to pass the energy that you feel towards your Youth Minister on to other people in the form of the kindness and warmth that you feel from him. Of course, my response is based on your statement that you know you are not gay. Otherwise, the way you are feeling about this man could be the first of feelings you will have toward many men in your lifetime. Either way, continue to open and honest with yourself and those you trust around you. Clearly, you go to church. Keep talking to the man upstairs. He'll guide you. Thanks for sharing. I hope this helps.
Commented Sep 2, 2014 by anonymous
When someone's brave enough to confess something personal, support and helpful suggestions are a good way to respond.
Commented Sep 2, 2014 by anonymous
You are not straight you queer fag boy.