Don't lose sight of the fact that your own last name is likely the product of your mother, her mother, and her mother, etc. taking on the name of their husbands through the generations. What you're essentially saying is that you'd prefer not to identify yourself by your own name. Where do we draw the line? I'm all for women's rights, however traditions and traditional gender roles are not necessarily a negative thing for all people in all relationships. Why can't you be like most people and just say "to each their own?" I say if it works for you, do it, if not, don't. Not so hard right? No need to judge people because you don't want it for yourself. Just my two cents, and I don't really care what you think in response to it.

It's too bad that so many of the people who frequent this site can't have an intelligent discourse about... well... anything at all. I don't happen to agree with the author of this "confession", but I'd rather find out why she feels the way she feels and have an actual discussion about it than resort to calling her names and bitching at her. It's ignorant people with crappy attitudes that make people like the author feel the way they do. As for the original premise of your post, I don't believe that a woman taking the name of her husband connotes ownership. I pelieve that it shows unity. I enjoy having the same last name as my wife. She does, too. The reason that I didn't take her name instead is one purely of tradition. I have no particular attachment to that tradition, and I have no particular aversion to it, either. But when my wife tells someone what her name is, I want that person to know that she is my wife. And I want people to whom I give my name to know that I am her husband. I claim no ownership of her, and I am under no illusion that my wife is in any way inferior to me. But we are a family, and sharing a name is a simple and traditional way to show that to everyone who crosses our path. And it sure does simplify the naming process for our children.

you don't own anyone idiot, just because a woman takes your name does not give you ownership over her, it just shows that she respects your relationship. The fact that you have this mentality just goes to show how you need to be in power

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we still own our wives and girlfriends you ignorant slut

You sound like a bitter lesbian who's forced to carpet munching for lack of good men. Remember that your last name belongs to a man (your father) who owns you until you get pass over another man (your husband) if you dislike the whole system, don't married or get a sex change & become a man.

def sounds like a middle aged women that has never been asked to marry probably never had a bf or even came before u sound bitter get a vibrator

shut up whore. choke to death on my dick. you're only worth as much as u are worth in bed. u sound likea boring fuk. no one will marry you.