When a doctor hits your knee your leg will bolt forward. It's a normal human reaction we can't overcome. The same happens when we see someone disfigured, handicapped or has an eye affliction as Anna. It's a knee jerk reaction for us to look away at first which can't be overcome. Usually, we are so embarrassed by our unintentional reaction that we won't look back so no one realizes what we have done. It is then that you become an unintentional bully! People with afflictions got used to be bullied at school. They felt it would end in the adult world. They don't mind that it was a normal reaction that you looked away when you first saw them. It's when you won't look back!! A few months ago a man started working as a cashier at the gas station my sons and I frequent. This new cashier had a lazy eye. Due to Cliff and other friends I have had in my life with a lazy eye my sons and I weren't taken back by it nor turned away from this cashier. He was a sweet man with a refreshing sense of humor. It was always a pleasure to have fun with him when at his store. One night when no one else was in the store but us, he told us that we didn't know what it meant to him that we always looked at him when we talked to him and treated him like he was just another normal human being. He said we'd be surprised that there were few people that would look at him. He didn't mind that people's first reaction was to look away. He wanted to know if YOU know how you make him feel when you won't look back at him! It's one thing to look away at first, but think about the fact that you are an unintentional bully if you don't look back. Don't think about your feelings of embarrassment for having looked away....think of their feelings being hurt which is far worse./// When I was pregnant with my youngest son, due to complications, they wanted to run tests to see if he might have developed DS so I could abort him in the early stages!!! Can you imagine that? Why would I want to murder my child because it may not come out perfect?? I would have loved my child if he had been born with DS as much as I loved Frank as a brother and Evvy (God rest her soul) who was the sister of a friend of mine who was born with DS. It makes me sick to my stomach to hear these same tired remarks being made about Sweetpea's children over and over again. I don't care what your problems are with Sweetpea they are with HER....leave children out of it. How sick must you be? I know as a Mother I would never say such remarks, I'm sure Vic as a Mother never would and it would be my bet that the remarks are coming from a MAN! If you have a problem with Sweetpea then let it be with HER. With that Sweetpea I'm sure you can understand why you had ME crying when you made a crack about me having a “stalker...BIG DEAL” (who put my SON in the hospital in ICU). As a Mother you should be able to understand what it would be like to have to take your beloved children to the zoo every Saturday and place them in with the bear (my stalker/their father) and wait for 4 hours in agony wondering what shape they will be in when you go back to pick them up. It IS a big deal. Without Dawn and stanno I would NEVER make it through those 4 hours each week. I accept your apology about the stalker and what happened to my son and like you also said in your apology, that aside, we still have ISSUES. Yes, we do. Sweetpea I most certainly have a problem with your constant remarks of “have another drink” to most of the troublemakers because you think they must be Vic. You honestly believe with the cruel things you have said to posters as you have said to me that Vic is the only poster on here with a problem with you whether they have been attacked by you, as I have, or don't like the words you choose to use to attack posters? My soul mate (God rest his beautiful soul) was killed (decapitated) by a head on collision of a drunk driver who survived the crash. It rips holes in my heart when you say “have another drink”. Why on earth would you attack someone on that level anyway? If you find that you are being viewed as the class bully you have only yourself and your choice of words in fighting with posters to blame. My last issue with you is Comments made that Vic is jealous of you because she couldn't make her marriage work. Vic Dawn and I were all married to sociopaths. It's not a marriage you try to make work, it's a marriage you try to escape from with your life, and your children's lives intact! No one is jealous of your relationship with Turbo. If anything it's nice to see someone happy. It's the rest of the things you say and do that is the core of the fighting! I am being honest with you. Until you change your words when fighting with posters and attack them, not their handicaps, as you claim to not like it have done to you, it's likely you will continue to make enemies. Please stop accusing all of them of being Vic. Consider your options of letting it all go!! /// FOOTNOTE TO ANNA: What I couldn't bring myself to think about and write yesterday. Anna wasn't bothered by the unintentional bullies that looked away when they saw her or the people that tried to look at her when they talked to her but couldn't for more than a few seconds at a time because she understood that. It was the intentional bullies that KILLED her. For twelve agonizing years of her life when she had to be excluded from school pictures she had to listen to bullies horrible remarks to her. That she never got over. Anna died because on what was going to be the happiest day of her life for finally finding someone to love her for who she was and marry her she didn't want to let down her family or his by not being able to capture any decent PHOTOS of the wedding.......PLEASE think of what your WORDS are capable of doing to people...including “have another drink”.....in loving memory of Anna!!