Tell him he's a proper cunt and to fuck off with his lies and deceit and own up to it all ! If you don't do that the you are as bigger cunt as he is !

I think if he is feeling that much guilt and he can't live with it he should tell her ...If he thinks he can't tell her but feels that bad and that much guilt and he has no interest in being with this woman and loves his wife still, I think he should not tell her . I would have different advise if it was a woman or a man who was a total dog with no guilt and was cheating on my friend ..I would in that situation say you tell them or I will...

I think you need to tell her if you are any kind of friend. It does not mean you have to choose sides. However, you know right from wrong and if she knew that you knew this secret and did not tell her, she'd feel betrayed by you too. Obviously the husband told you for a reason - secret cry for help? Either way, you did not cause this affair. Withholding the information is clearly causing you stress and guilt. Get it out before it consumes you all together. This is NOT your problem to fix. You got thrown into the middle of this by him confessing to you. I disagree with the last poster about calling a meeting or another dinner. It will not go well and you don't need to have a dramatic outburst to top this off. I suggest you speak to the husband again and advise him that unless he tells his wife, that you have no choice but to do it. Then follow through and let them go at it. During the fall out, you can be supportive of both friends but don't get involved.

I say you tell and help the poor man out. He wasn't drunk when he confessed to you, was he? Then he wants you to help out.

I think you should call a meeting or have another dinner involving all four of you but first tell your husband first. Maybe he knows a better way to break the news or talk your friend's husband into fessing up.