temptations
Posted Mar 2, 2011 by anonymous | 170 views | 1 comments
I have alot of things on my mind, and I need to get them off my chest. I have been seeing a man who has been an emotional basket case because of a previous relationship. He's brought some of that baggage to me, and has treated me badly more often than not, because of the things he's gone through himself. I let him go because of those things, but he recently apologized, and we had a real heart to heart talk last night. He really wants me to be a part of his life, and he is definitely filing for divorce. The problem is, I told my close friends about all the negative things he's said or done to me, and they think I shouldn't see him anymore. My best friend said she might not talk to me again if I let him back into my life, and another good friend hinted towards the same thing. I don't want to lose either of these people in my life, as they have both been very good to me over the years. I feel very torn, because I know these people don't want to see me get hurt, and they think I'm setting myself up for it.
Commented May 25, 2011 by anonymous
Tell the guy that he needs to deal with his shit and get back to you once he's done that. Until then, remain unavailable to him; no long phone conversations, no meetings, above all, NO SEX/intimacy. As to your friends, there's a word for what they're doing: it's called 'manipulation'. Make your own decisions, think it through as to what's best for you and let them know that whatever comes, they need to deal with it. Tell them you love them and if they truly loved you, they'd cut you enough slack to do your own thinking, even if it means making a mistake along the way. This is what friendship truly is all about.