My wife and I have had sex where I lie on my back and she is on top with me inside her. She gyrates and orgasms. Basic life story, Married, great relationship including sex, kids, Got older, got busy whatever, grew apart. Sex was boring. She would lie there and let me fuck her but she saw it as a chore and I found it depressing that I could not bring her to orgasm. I suggested a few things and the one thing that seemed to get her off was when she was on top. She also liked more of the relationship stuff as distinct from intercourse. The relationship stuff was missing from the marriage too. Even though with her on top there was more chance of her cumming, there were times when I came and then went limp and she was left unsatisfied so through discussion and it was kind of fun we agreed I would not cum until after she had cum once then after she recovered just lying on me which was nice too then she would get going again and then I was allowed to cum and usually she would get to cum again too. We kind of experimented with this sort of thing and it has really rekindled the relationship. Its a bit kinky and has brought out a new side in her and even though its kind of hard for me there is also a lot of satisfaction. The tease. The tension. We both lead really busy lives and now though the tease and the attention keeps the personal side fresh. Over time she has become more confident and more demanding as well as more into the tension and tease. Sometimes she will use sex as a bribe for me which is actually kid of fun. Its nice to know that if I do something she asks that I am guaranteed sex. We kind of played with her not letting me orgasm and she often will not give me permission to orgasm at all in a session and sometimes over several sessions and knows that I still enjoy her orgasming. These times are becoming longer and longer but I really love when she hugs me and plays with my penis and strokes it and teases me by saying things like Hmm I wonder how long I should keep you without orgasm. That's my confession that my wife controls my sex life and I have to ask her if I can orgasm.