This site is a trip, that's for sure. Way back when... Once again, I posted in the middle of a 'conversation' with Sweetpea and Turbo to relay a message to Turbo. I was in a hurry, so I may have been impatient about a response at the time. Either way, I did NOT see a response right away, or even after some time that made sense. The whole thing was completely misinterpretted by Sweetpea so I will make it clearer if I possibly can. I developed an on-line relationship with Turbo over a period of time. That is generally how friendships occur. You get to know a person, and they become a part of your life in some way that you like. I am not necessarily known for frequenting websites, chatrooms, or developing any kind of relationship with people on-line. Call me old-fashioned, but I think it takes more than words to get to know a person on a more personal level. I also don't use the word 'friendship' lightly, as I consider my friends to be like extended family to me. I do feel, however, that Turbo was being himself with his words, and I liked what he had to say. No, I haven't never wanted to extend my relationship with Turbo beyond friendship. Simply put, he's not my type, but I am generally careful about what I say to discourage a person of the opposite sex that may be interested in more with me. That is NOT an easy task at times. Anyway, I never felt more than alot deeper in thought than Sweetpea, so I didn't feel we had much more in common than Turbo. Turbo knew how I felt about Chieftain, and I can thank him for encouraging Chieftain to develop a relationship outside of this site. I liked Chieftain, and his comments were humorous to me, very direct, no bones about it attitude, and yes, I'm attracted to that. The guy I've been seeing off and on for the last 4 years has the same type of humor, but he's messed up right now, and so am I, sober or otherwise. I stand a chance if I remain sober, and any hard core alcoholic knows this for a fact. I believe I scared Chieftain away when I revealed some things I was feeling on here after drinking a large amount of alcohol. That's okay, and I understand. I put up a red flag for him on this site without meaning to, and I can thank Jack Daniels for that. Chieftain did write, and I figured it to be more obligatory in nature, than real after what I wrote. When he wrote again after a period of time, I was happy about it. Who do you think would appreciate that more than anyone on here at the time? Yep, that would be Turbo. Thus, my message to him when I knew I could get his attention. There was no hidden message in my words to Turbo directed at Sweetpea. That would be Sweetpea's interpretation. I was very surpised to get the respone I did from Sweetpea, but that only confirmed my initial reaction that she was very young inside her head. Rocky attacked me in a manner that rang abusive to me, so I dropped him like a hot potato. Sweetpea continued with her ideas about me on this site. Of course, I'm going to respond. How does a person respond when they're being attacked? Not only that, but, how does a person respond when they don't believe in infidelity, and only posted with kindness for the sake of somebody they like? So, I screwed up with that. I should have been honest about how I felt regarding Sweetpea's chase for Turbo considering she was still married with children involved. THAT is what I have a problem with, or at least it used to be narrowed down to that. Now, I have a problem with Sweetpea. She continues to bash people over the head, and say she isn't all in the same breath. That's fucked up. When she gets a taste of her own medicine, all hell breaks loose on this site, and for what? Some little girl in TN who's trying to justify her own actions by bringing down other people to her level? I hardly think so, and guess what, Phoenix has been the glue holding this site together ever since. Am I the only one who's noticed that? Dawn has an untainted spirit about her, and brings a smile to this site. Stanno is an absolutely wonderful person who tries to remain diplomatic, and sets a good example with that. So, in short, many people on this site contribute many different things, and for the most part, it's positive. It's all in the readers interpretation of the words that are written. When a person sees another person spreading negativity on here, somebody WILL say something, and that's fine. Sweetpea and Turbos drama posts appeared very childish in nature, but they weren't harmful to anyone. I personally hit the next button ALOT. Since I interrupted their posts with my own, I have been chastized from Sweetpea ever since, directly or indirectly. I feel guilty about hurting Turbo's feelings if I have, but not Sweetpea. She may not have the capability to see what she is doing, but I don't feel bad because she doesn't even try. Nobody owns this site except the owners, that's is, plain and simple. Common courtesy and respect is a great thing, but not always part of the real world and this site is a part of the real world. So are the people on it, and most of us are adults here that should know better than to fuck with another person's life, if they can possibly help it. How do you know which posts are serious and which aren't? You only know if the person posting lets you know. Sweetpea is very serious with her alligations, and I'm sure it bothers her that she is wrong. But why keep bringing it up? My perspective is different because I am not restricted to my home with a bunch of young kids. That is a phase I am quite over, and do not want to relive. I actually lead a pretty interesting life more often than not, and that's okay. I've used this site to keep me out of trouble, and it's all good. If I can offer words of wisdom to a poster, I do. If I have nothing to say that I think would make a difference on a serious post, I don't find it necessary to announce it, except to appease the mind of another. Just like anything else in life, it's either worth the effort or it's not, and everyone will give you their answers, not necessarily the answers you want or like or need, or whatever. My answer to Sweetpea's never ending accusation lies within this page. I do NOT and never have had a romantic interest in Turbo, so you can stop the nonsense and quit bringing other people into it to prove you're right. It won't work because it's not true, just like you don't have a true marriage. Those are the facts - PERIOD. Too many assumptions going on - 'we have a failure to communicate'. Hello? Get over yourself and your pettiness, Sweetpea. If you want to post, try a different approach, you know, like a grown up one. Dawn is younger than you, and does not appear to lack the maturity you do. And no, I don't act my age on here either sometimes. As far as I'm concerned, I've earned that right. There isn't a whole lot to learn from you that I know of, except maybe what NOT to do. At least I'm honest about my demise, and so are most of the posters on here. That would be a good place to start for you - have a look in the mirror. If you don't see any room for personal growth there, you may want to keep looking until you do. In the meantime, leave me out of your stupid comments - THANX