
so complicated and confusing
Posted Aug 25, 2011 by anonymous | 481 views | 1 comments
So this girl was dating one of my best friends for 10 months, towards the end she started talking to me a lot, mostly about how much of a jerk my friend, and after listening for awhile I realized that that friend was a complete jerk to her, one day they broke up, and i was there for her, over the course of the summer we became great friends, at one point I went to see her (she lives like 30 mins away from me) with one of my friends, she brought us to an under 21 club, and she and my friend danced, at this time I have no feeling for her, soon after they start dating, she still tells me everything, they soon break up, partly because my friend who dated her for 10 months threatened to kill me other friend who dated her, when they broke up I was still there for her, I kept seeing her, and without any of my friends dating her, I began to like her, now it is today and I still like her, so much, and I want to do something about it but I can't because I would hate to ruin the friendship and because she has dated my friends, (side note the friend she originally dated I am no longer close with him anymore unfortunately) and when she hung out with me recently I brought her back to my town (also when we hang out my other friends are always there) and she hung out with us as usual, and now i think one of my friends may like her, its fine though cause I already talked to her about him and she says she does not like him, and my best friend I think may like her aswell and she has already told me that she thinks that he is hot, she defines me as extremely cute, but because I know everything about her she generally prefers hot, and today I was supposed to hang out with her and bring my friends (both of whom I think like her) because she likes hanging with my best friend and the friends she was bringing 1 thinks my best friend is hot and really wants to meet the other friend, and her other friend thinks my best friend is even hotter, but I was not able to go and I am the only one who drives us to her, my best friend could have driven, and after she called me and I told her that I am not able to come today, she seemed upset and made a plan for next Friday, she then asked if my best friend would drive down, and I said maybe ask him yourself, and she has called him multiple times (increasing my paranoia a bit) when I snuck out of my house to hang with my friends for an hour (I knew I could not sneak out long enough to see her) they were deciding to go or not, seeing that I was there and its an hour driving round trip they decided against it, now where I am lost is that I do not know what to do, I want to tell her how I feel but I could not stand losing her friendship, and I honestly think that if she decides to go out with one of my friends I would break contact with her because I would never get to hang out with her like normal with one of my friends dating her, so those are my two options I feel any help is appreciated, sorry that I typed so much..
Commented Aug 26, 2011 by alex
hey dude, once a guy told me a cool thing, i was 15 back then, he said: 'There is the girl and the boy' in this case its you and her, 'they both come towards each other, in the middle is the 'friend pit' and if the guy falls into that pit, there is no way out', this seems almost you 'and he will see another guy coming towards the same girl and taking over her' sooo, you have 2 options, either go for her as a GF/BF relationship, or see how your third friend takes over her. Up to you to decide, show who'se the man, call her before any meetings and ask her for a date in a restaurant without any friends, tell her you want to hang out with her only