Silly secret crush on a "ghost"
Posted Apr 6, 2011 by anonymous | 825 views | 11 comments
I'm happily married to a wonderful man. I met a fellow through business. Our dealings were brief and all business. We have no contact with each other. Yet I can not stop thinking about him. I am in my late 30's and have my life together. I know its a "childish" crush but one I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone. I know very little about him except that I am drawn to him and think of him often. I've looked him up on-line and know more about him than I probably should - some would call it stalking. The funny thing is, I really doubt I'd want a relationship with this man. But I would like to touch him, smell him, hold him. He's not even that attractive and yet I'm attracted to him. There's a country song with a line that goes "I'm in love with you baby and I don't even know your name."
Commented Jun 7, 2011 by anonymous
I miss you too!
Commented Jun 2, 2011 by anonymous
I'm the original poster of the confession. It's now been almost 7 months and I still think of him. Not with the same intensity as before but still often. I imagine I'm with him when I'm having sex with my husband.
Commented Apr 10, 2011 by anonymous
Almost caved in today and contacted him but I didn't. Torturous!
Commented Apr 8, 2011 by anonymous
I think you said it very well when you said its a bit odd to have such a long crush on a total stranger. Most people crush on people they know. Good advice and so far, I've been able to restrain myself from doing anything that can even remotely be perceived as inappropriate. Some days its hard not to want to send that email or 'friend' him on facebook! My eyes adore you . . . . but only from afar.
Commented Apr 8, 2011 by Terminal
It's a funny feeling having a long crush on some stranger. I think you are letting your fantasies getting a free rein. Maybe you are romanticizing this guy to make up for some perceived failings about your own husband. Whatever it is, a little secret fantasy never hurts anyone. Heck, you can even gather some information online about this man to help you build your fantasy but I believe you know where and when it should end. Just make sure you don't start hurting your our marriage and intruding into the stranger's life. Aside these, I think you are fine.
Commented Apr 8, 2011 by turbo
coincidence. although i know it DOES seem like a conspiracy.
Commented Apr 7, 2011 by anonymous
I know the chaos it would cause in my world. I was married before and I was the jilted wife. I could never do that to my husband. Or could I? I want to think I'm better than that, that I'm more in control. Its been 5 months now and I think about him even more than before. Uuuugggh!!! It also doesn't help that there are look-a-likes of him on TV that plant the seed of lust again! Coincidence or serendipity?
Commented Apr 7, 2011 by anonymous
the only way to get the urge to disappear is to think of the worst case, lets say if you sleep with him what consequence it will have on your consciousness. Will you be able to live with this guilt all your life?
Commented Apr 7, 2011 by turbo
:D it'll be over before you know it.
Commented Apr 7, 2011 by anonymous
You're absolutely right. I hope it goes away sooner than later because he's in my every thought. I have to be careful not to speak his name by accident! Adult infatuation. sigh
Commented Apr 6, 2011 by turbo
this happens to all of us at one time or another. it's fun and exciting, but it eventually ends. enjoy it while it lasts. it's how we learn and grow and appreciate what we have.