This type of thing, having sex with others just to make your partner happy, never ends well.

Got to agree with submissive mommy, its a real fine line and I gave it much thought before I asked my girl to do the same but of course you can't put to many limits and restrictions on her. If and when she does whatever she does she does I have no right to to be upset if she does something that botherbothers me after the fact. its my bed gotta sleep in it...Bry

DO IT!!! He's an idiot!! LoL Ok so, Your man, husband, wants You, his wife to pleasure his best friend the way (probably better actually :))?!?!? Is his bf cute? Let's assume he is :) HELL YES!!!! He would.!!! BUT MAKE UP A CONTRACT, NOTARIZED, STATING THAT AT NO TIME MAY ANYONE USE THIS AGAINST ANYONE ELSE EVER! That this is ALL YOUR HUSBANDS IDEA OF WHICH YOU REFUSED AT FIRST BUT AFTER MUCH THOUGHT, YOU WANT TO SATISFY YOUR MAN, & agree. I say do it Have fun Who knows what the future holds ~C~

It sounds like his request is actually for an open relationship. I don't recommend it myself. My sister agreed to that same scenario and her husband divorced her right after she let a friend in bed with her at her husbands request. Accused her of being unfaithful. She sleeps on my couch right now and my husband is in Iraq on deployment. Her husband is lucky for that cause he never liked the guy anyway.

Well put!!!

My wife and I have talked about it during foreplay many times. She finally admitted it is also one of her fantasies to fuck another man and let me watch. Not sure if/when we will, but our sex life now is awesomely hot. She gets so turned on. I can feel her have waves of wetness as we play and the stories come up about her doing another man, or woman, with me watching or joining in. You need to be secure and have the trust in your marriage first. In a way, this type of fun eliminates the desire to cheat for either party if you are open about desires. Nothing brings a couple closer than doing something so intense, that no one else would do for them.

Open relationships simplso not work sweety.It will cut your marriage's life in half and ruin everything.dont proceed any further with this.

Can't hurt to try.

your an asshat, op don't listen to this douche'

that sounds exactly right and kudos to you!

No I do not think he is lying, I feel the same way. It is my fantasy but I would only enjoy it if she had fun and enjoyed it too. It is quite a difficult desire to explain and communication is KEY. My girl and I discussed and roleplayed these scenarios for YEARS before we ever did it and went through all the good and bad outcomes of doing this. its tricky, many unknowns so that is why open and honest communication is so important. I think your doing a very good job of keeping an open mind.

You have done exactly right.

I have asked the same thing of my girlfriend and she responded as you have. Trust me, your husband is turned on by you having sex with another man and that is it. it is not him confessing about a previous affair or prepping you so he can have sex out side the marriage. He simply likes the idea and trusts you enough to confide in you about his fantasy. That takes a lot of gut s. I am sure if you asked him why, he said "I don't know why it turns me on" and he is right. We don't know. So trust your gut, try it out if you want to...or at least discuss the details of what you would do. Just doing that will get him aroused. And when it is all said and done, give it a try...you might like it.

Ferther more, how do you know anything about me and how I will handle it if I would go along with his request and sleep with his friend?

Sry? How would you know anything about my husband to judge him like that, I'm not saying I agree with him on this thing but I feel as his wife I owe him my elegance and I'm trying to be open minded about this and what is really behind his thinking.

You're right I don't feel comfortable about it, but wouldn't you think it's because it is strange and I have never done it before? I am not building a case for my husband but I know he loves me an I do trust & love him... shit I have mixed feelings about it all but I don't want to be closed minded either!

Your husband is a dumb ass. Once you start fucking other cock, you will like it and you won't stop. He will be jealous that you don't want his cock any more but it will be too late. You will be whore for strange cock. You may as well end your marriage now with this guy.

it is quite clear you don't feel comfortable. he says it is all "for you". well, if I were you, I would forget all about it. why would I do anything if I do not feel comfortable?

if you two have a normal satisfying married sex life, I believe he is lying.

Although I totally want to please my husband he assured me it wasn't all about him that he wants it to happen so I can have fun...so do you think he is lying?

My husband and I have talked about this tonight before we went to our favorite bar, we actually just got home there. He told me he thought I was the most beautiful and sexy woman he has ever been with and loves me with all his heart and thought I might want to have some fun that's why he brought it up in the first place. He said it was up to me if I wanted to do it with his friend, I ask him if his friend (Jerry) knew about all this and he said no that he wanted to clear it with me first he said I should think about it and let him know what I decided about having sex with Jerry. I told him I thought he was being a dumb ass before we went out the door to go out. It was all totally weird tonight but I had fun with our friends, when Jerry ask me to dance with him I thought nothing of it since we do dance with our friends... I found myself thing about what my husband said all the while we held each other and I found myself getting nervous as hell...I think he could tell something was different I'm sure! After we got home my husband said he was watching Jerry and I dancing and he got aroused over watching us together. I just blew it off took a bath and got on the computer typing this. AAAH!

as a man that wants this and received it there is NO greater or more meaningful thing you can do for him than this. Believe me it is his biggest dream.

for some people that is exactly how they like it... a hobby horse merrygo-round try and ride and move to a new one or three in an hour. why not try a swingers party first! or both of you watch other people having sex first before you take the PLUNGE!

I will not have sex ever again with just anyone because you should want it for the right reasons and get to know the person, and be in love with them for good sex. but some people have sex for other reasons. there is too much talk about this sort of thing now. sex is not a hobby-horse or merry-go-round where you hop on one horse then another in an hour or so...

I would only do it if I actually found his friend to be sexually appealing otherwise no, don't do it because you will regret it if he turns you off or he is not your type. to me sex is about a few things... compatibility as people, sexual and physical desire, physical attraction, and if he gives you that "feel good" feeling when you are with him. does he flirt or do you find your husbands friend attractive? I would not do a threesome or swap unless I really liked the guy, so if your husbands friend is not your type send him on his way. suggest another guy that you might like to have sex with in front of your husband because there are plenty around I guess...I don't have sex, not married and never had a boyfriend other then being raped by a married man... so I can not give much advice. does he want to have sex with other women? or has he... be sure he is not leading up to a confession that indeed he has been unfaithful and just wants you to have sex with his friend to even the score! or because his friend wants you or its entrapment. why does he want you to do it? ask him all this !!! be sure!!! Dial a Latino lover hotline to come around for your fantasy fuck!!!

You need to sit down with your husband and discuss this. I don't know how open you are about your sex life and how much you discuss fantasies etc but I would venture that there is something a little wrong if this request just came out of blue. Knowing the reasons behind it might help answer a few questions. It might sound gross but maybe he gets off on the idea of watching and he trusts his friend. Your boundaries, as the person being propositioned here, are what's most important at this stage.

l'm the one you replied to. in this case better to avoid the headache and stay away from this.

Well, actually I am just trying to deal with his asking me to sleep with his friend, I probably won't do it but I know I am not going to be sleeping with another woman cause I am not that way. I know guys are going to tell me to just go for it but I want to be logical with this whole situation.

if you are sure he really means and you are sure your love and relationship are strong enough, why not? but what if he comes later and suggests another woman to be your third partner? will you handle it?

You have a free ticket, enjoy it,