Self-conscious gay guy
Posted May 20, 2013 by anonymous | 176 views | 3 comments
I am a bigger gay guy and have hair in more places than I care to think about. I am losing my hair on my had to male pattern baldness. I am interested in fit and trim guys but feel like I don't have a chance in the world. I have been working on my diet and exercise but can't make much time because of school. being in my late 20's, on a college campus with the average student age of late teens to early twenties is difficult. I talk to people in my classes but don't even feel comfortable making friends. I don't want to be known as a bear or a cub at the gay community puts it. I want to be known for who I am and whatever complished. I am also a spiritual person in the Christian faith dealing with that is all that I have to hang onto. I don't know what to do. I'm lost and I feel helpless and hopeless. there is more to the story though. I have different mental health issues and learning disabilities that I struggle with. even with being a psychology major, I still don't understand myself or why I do what I do. Even with counseling and help, I can't seem to kick the fears of rejection.
Commented May 23, 2013 by anonymous
If you weren't Christian, I'd totally date you. Also I get the feeling your probably American and I'm not, so unless you're from the UK too it probably wouldn't work anyway. If it makes you feel any better, I'm always getting called a "twink" even though I'm not a slut, or a "femme" even though I'm not very effeminate. I'm only just 20, but I'd love to date a guy who was slightly older, bigger and hairier. I'm sure you'll find someone on campus if you get out there and look. Do they have a Pride society? Straight people don't have to make such an effort to meet their "true love" because there are so many of them. Life and love isn't so simple if you're gay. Even if you feel like no one will want you, you should still try to get out there and let other people decide that for you. Other people will often judge you much more kindly than you'll judge yourself. And they say opposites attract, which I think is particularly true in the gay community. I think guys who are into you would be labelled "chasers" but I don't think you should worry about labels. Labels are meant to be descriptive not prescriptive. And you mustn't let the fear of rejection hold you back otherwise you'll turn into one of those lonely old men who wear the same jumpers everyday until they die and eat microwave meals alone and don't even get a goldfish for the fear that it won't love them. Even though your confession isn't much to go on, because you focus on your negative traits, but you're probably a great guy, just lacking in confidence, and you just need to stop waiting to meet that guy of your dreams and get out there and say this is who I am and I am glad. xxx
Commented May 21, 2013 by anonymous
I suppose that's the best I should expect from the people on here. Just remember, you aren't on my things-to-do list. If you could walk a day in my shoes, you'd mist likely commit suicide. Why would I choose to have a part of me consist of a trait that can still get me put to death? Think about it. Really think.
Commented May 20, 2013 by anonymous
faggot