Religion problems
Posted Oct 24, 2014 by anonymous | 293 views | 6 comments
I'm in my second year of confirmation at my church. I've been raised as a Lutheran. we say grace at dinner and go to church and pray and stuff, but we aren't super religious like some people. For confirmation, all of the kids and teachers have dinner together once a week, then go do a lesson. After two years of this, there's a big ceremony and boom your "faith is confirmed" and you're technically a full member of the church. I've never really minded going, but I've noticed lately that that's only because I get to socialize with my friends. I hate the long boring lesson. I almost feel guilty knowing that i'll be confirmed next year because I feel like I'm lying. I don't know what religion i am. I think I'm actually Atheist because all of the stories like reincarnation and powers and stuff like that seem kind of unrealistic to me. I mean, how come that stuff doesn't happen now? But I still pray and hope it comes true, but is that only because it's what I've been raised to do. If someone asked me if God was real, I'd probably say yes because it's what I've been taught to say, but do I really believe that? I can't to seem to seperate my opinion from what I've been told are facts. Lately, i've been finding it hard to do after school activities and see friends because I have to go to confirmation. I can't figure out what to do. I can choose to not be confirmed, but then I'd have to explain it to my family and friends, and I really don't want to because I know how embarrassing and awkward it will be. I have a little brother who will be starting soon, somehow I know he won't want to do it because his big brother didn't. What do I do?
Commented Oct 26, 2014 by anonymous
The only reason you are a Christian is because you were raised as one- most children raised by muslims will be muslim, most raised by hindus will be hindus etc, nothing to do with any credibility of the religion. It's indoctrinating. Sit down and actually read the bible from cover to cover and see just how many sick, down right crazy BS is in there. If god will really punish you just because you decided you didn't want to worship him, then clearly he never was worthy of worship anyway.
Commented Oct 26, 2014 by anonymous
the whole religion crap is a load of bollocks
Commented Oct 24, 2014 by anonymous
Is there an adult besides your parents you can talk to?? I think it would help if you could discuss your feelings with someone you trust. I do think what you are feeling is normal and understandable. I am a Catholic. I went through a lot of what your going when I was your age. I wasn't sure I wanted to be confirmed. I decided to be confirmed. I am glad I did, but it took years before I understood what it all meant.
Commented Oct 24, 2014 by anonymous
I teach Religious Ed to Catholic students, and you sound like most of them. They get Confirmed when they are about 14 years old. Most of them don't believe the stuff I teach them. They are just there to make their parents happy. And I understand that. I tell them Confirmation is like a vaccination - when you get it as a child, you don't understand why. But when you get older, it all makes sense. There is something I tell my students though. When you really think about it, does belief in the church's teachings really affect you? How would you life change if you were not a believer? You'd have an extra hour to do nothing on Sunday, and maybe you'd give to a different charity instead? My point is, people make it seem like being Catholic (or Lutheran or anything else) is a HUGE deal that totally changes their lives. It isn't, and it doesn't. It's an hour on Sunday mornings. It's not doing some things (like having an abortion), and doing other things (like helping the homeless), that, honestly, you should do anyway, even if you don't believe in the Biblical background for it.
Commented Oct 24, 2014 by anonymous
Go to Opra or confess that you crave choirboys
Commented Oct 24, 2014 by anonymous
some of the smallest things can have the biggest impacts cant they? don't lie to your parents. if they are truly lutheran they will accept your personal thoughts.