i am a 27 year old guy still a virgin

I am a 24 year old male virgin. I never really told anyone that I am either, so I know exactly where you're coming from. I don't look like the 'typical virgin' per se, and I don't think people would even believe them if I told them that I were. It's good to know that there are girls around who aren't just giving it up easily. I'm also waiting for the right person. I believe we're all meant to find someone when the time is right. The way I look at is is you waited this long. It's something you're always going to remember. You should feel a connection with the person. Don't just do it, to get it over with. By the way, I know you don't know me, but I have so much respect for you that you actually did wait.

I'm a guy, almost 20 and still a virgin. I agree with everything you said and have a similar scenario. It's not that I'm weird or isolate myself from girls (even the pretty attractive ones), I just need to have an emotional connection with someone to even contemplate having sex. I know that I'm sensitive enough to need a certain amount of trust with my future partner in order to do the deed. It's just how I am, and I refuse to adapt myself to society if it doesn't accept me for who I am.

Actually the best sex a woman has is usually in her 30s...

I am also a virgin. Everyone is like WHAT YOU'RE A VIRGIN?!?!? It kind of makes me feel bad when they do it, but when the day has come to an end I'm glad I didn't just screw random guys. I mean I'm 20, and i've gotten many offers, nothing has clicked though .

That is a shame but I had a friend just like you. It never seemed to happen even when they wanted it to. But over time they developed more confidence and through enough attempts (and there was alot) they eventually managed to find someone who slept with them. Them two are now happily married but my point is put yourself out in a safe way and you wont be a virgin much longer ;)

Don't worry, you have looooots of time! Life is long. I think you already have the right attitude it sounds like you're not making a mountain out of a molehill. If I were you I would probably take the plunge in 2012 - it is something special to be a virgin and it's awesome that you have an adult perspective on it all, but you're also missing out on sex which is super fun.

Im 21 and a virgin and i like it its weird to say i like men but none are that amazing to get in my pants and thats just me personally i even like to sex chat but never got around to the actual sex just masterbation and thats it i guess it takes time to love someone and actually have sex with them!

Your age is not relevant. Humans are sexual beings from the moment of conception until death. Our sexuality is expressed in many different ways not just intercourse. Expressing your sexuality does not mean your have to have intercourse. Media has convinced young people that intercourse is what makes a relationship worthwhile. Not so..the reality is that there are many different levels that need to happen between two people to build a valuable and worthwhile relationship with intercourse being the final act of love not the first....then intercourse is transformed into an act of love that goes beyond anything the physical body experiences. Be true to yourself and real love will find you.

I find your outlook on sex refreshing. Ideally having sex, especially for the first time in ones life should be special. I wish I would've searched a little harder for a woman like you when I was your age. Giving it up to a whore like I did really left an empty feeling. No special someone to look back on. No emotional bond with them. It's one spur of the moment decision in my life I truly regret. Seeings how it's been awhile since you wrote this I hope that if you've crossed that boundary it was everything you hoped it would be.

Stop being so self righteous about yourself you fucking dickwad. You aint the only woman out there with a pussy you know. Get you knickers down and start using you're beaver you frigid cow ! If you aint good in bed which clearly you aint then no fucker is gonna be interested anyway and when you finaly do get a penis up you're old hole then you'll probabl think you're in love when really it was just a shag. You live in a pathetic dreamworld. At leat you'll save money on batteries for you're vibrator for a change !!! Total dickhead !!!

Regardless what these people say sex is a bid deal for a woman, and a woman must think very hard before making that decision as she can never go back, so she must find a man she loves and she will be with for the rest of her life before doing it.

When it happens it happens. That all i can say. Dont be ashamed of it. Just embrace it. Some guys find that hott.

I hate to be so blunt, but someone has to say it. Pussy has a limited lifetime as far as it's value. It starts out at mid-level in your early teens, it peaks from 18 to 20 then the value starts falling. It drops off slowly at first but it's an ever steepening slope. In your case, you are fast approaching that first big plummet! After a while, nobody is going to want to knock the cobwebs out of that thing. Seriously, if you haven't been laid by 25 then there is something else going on. Either you are ugly, fat, or have some kind of mental hangup.

There is nothing wrong with waiting in fact the longer you wait the better

Marry me! Well not really..but you are the kind of girl I would want to marry. You actually have standards. When I am done with all the random sluts can I call you?

sounds like somebody laid it down too easy, er?

I agree with this poster. There's enough whore's and sluts out there like the person who wrote the 'sparkles and diamonds' comment. Know your self worth and do what's right for you. Don't cave for the sake of being like all the other girls. If you do, you'll no longer be special in your own terms.

I'm extremely disappointed and repulsed by this comment. It's shit like this that has and continues to destroy us as human beings. Making us more like animals. Sex isn't despensible or merely a means of fun. It should be fun but it should also be done with some responsibility. Your always going to remember your first experience in anything right? So why screw up your first experience in something that's going to be such a big part of life, simply because other people are bringing you the message of 'why wait' or 'just do it'??? Take your time and choose wisely, however long it takes. A good guy is going to be honored and will respect you for your choice. She's not made of diamonds and sparkles??? Who are you to tell her how highly to value herself and her virginity?!?! Because she hasn't chosen to have sex, you've labeled her a princess?!?! Her life, her choice... Frankly I think your probably dealing with some mental issues... Maybe rape or molestation??? Or maybe an abusive parent; either mentally or physically. If she's 30 when it happens it will be on her terms. And if guys are apprehensive about getting involved with her because of her choice then that's their choice, their free to make it. Sex IS a big deal!!! Your giving something away that you'll NEVER get back, someone is seeing in a very vulnerable state... Make sure its the right someone. Take things as slow as you need and be as cautious and careful as YOU feel you need to be :)

Well to be honest, you are right to save it for the right one or you will regret it early on when you do find the right man. But hey I know it is not about being afraid of losing it, but to loss it to the wrong one is what you are truly afraid of so in your cause I say to wait it out as long as u can or wait for the right one to take..... but either way it is your design... :) Hopes this Helps ;)

Sex should not be such a big deal but I like that you are not averse to it, only it hasn't happen yet. A word of advice though: it's never like it's billed to be. And I mean that both in a good and bad way. Your first sex is not going to be terribly good; sure it may remain a sentimental act but it's never going to match the ones to follow. But then, when you start, there is no going back. So, whichever way you go, girl, just keep having a nice time. That's what matters.

there is no right guy. But be extremely honest with your dates. You can tell if he's in love with you, that's all that matters. And ask his ex girlfriends what's he really like.

Did it ever cross your mind that sex might be better when you're younger? I mean, you're not getting any more fit than you are now.

You should just do it. I mean, you're twenty five. What are you waiting for? If you were any younger I would say wait for the right person but I think if you get any older guys are gonna be squicked by the virginity thing. Stop being a princess, get your f*ck on and get over yourself. You are not made of diamonds and sparkles.