omg....tell him this...'you can do anything to me you want'...you only live once, baby..and this is your time to go wild.

You know you shouldn't be 'actively' friends with any woman when your marriage is falling apart! While you sit and let things rum there course I wonder if you've let your wife in on your friendship with this other woman.chances are your a coward who wants his cake and eat it too. Why not give your wife the same chance to find someone else by being honest and ending it now? Chances are just that, chances. Either they work out or fail. But not doing anything to make your marriage work Is still making a choice! Man up and get out because your mentally already gone! I bet your wife feels the strain. No one stays in misery unless they have something they are still gaining from it!

While you are speaking about the two of you where's the wife's voice in all of this? First off your already to close if you know about his sleeping arrangments at home. There seems to be no boundaries in this friendship. He's married and should have known better. You knew he was married and should have stepped away when he gave out intimate details of his marriage. Now ask yourself is this a man you'd like doing the same to you? If he has no limits on his personal behavior outside of his marriage is this person credible? Trust worthy? Honest? Please put yourself in his wife's shoes. As hard as it may be , walk away!! If he is any kind of man he will get out of his marriage or work on it. This man shouldn't even be considered someone to be available because he isn't! What's at stake here is his marriage their lives, your live, but most important ; you self worth, dignity and moral ethics.

You know, I'm in a similar situation, but I'm the older man. I'm activity friends with a woman who is 20 years younger than I am - the activity is a partner-type activity, and it's done in public. We are very physically attracted to one another, and I haven't had intimate relations with my wife for over 10 years. My friend helped me to realize that if I want her fully in my life, I first have to create the space to allow her in. Only after the space is there can we explore whether or not a full and complete life together is feasible (after all, life is more than shared fun activities and sex). With respect to the vows and promises at marriage - the marriage broke down years ago, but circumstances dictated that ending the marriage would not be the right thing to do (for a variety of reasons). Now, however, many/most of those reasons have run their course, so I'm reconsidering whether it is time to create that space, invite my friend into it (if she indeed wants that), and to fully explore the possibility of a full, rich, and wonderful life together. My suggestion to you, original poster, is to have the conversation with your older man about what you each might want, and the issue of creating space. It's not about cheating or not, and it's really about more than just the sex. Have an honest and open conversation as a basis of potentially creating a solid new relationship, and a basis for moving forward as opposed to back and forth.

I don't think anything more can be said than the person who just previously said NOOOO, and explained why you shouldn't. I concur.

Give in. Just do it. You know you want to so just go for it. Let life work itself out.

As an older guy myself, I can tell you that I know he'd enjoy it, but I've heard too many stories from younger women that have hooked up with older guys and it was not what they expected. Aside from the sex, there really isn't much in common with that large of an age gap.I'm not saying not to do it, but just know that it's not going to be forever after, more like a short affair with a good chance of disappointment. There is also the whole thing about if he cheats on her he'll cheat on you but it might not even get to that point.

Noooo. He's married. Doesn't that mean anything to you? They may not be having sex but they are still together. Obviously you have a sense of morals and values otherwise you wouldn't be questioning it, and you are questioning it because you know its just not right. You know. You also want to do it, its natural to find people attractive, most are, but remember he took vows and made promises to that woman, she did the same to him...for better or worse. Stay out of it.