as a child I was not comfortable about being naken in bed with my parents if I wet the bed sometimes my mother would take off my wet pants and just shove me into bed with them and I felt funny about having no underpants on and my bottom and front parts exposed. I don't think they did anything other than hug me and try to comfort me but I felt fearful to fall asleep like that incase my father might touch me but I don't know if he did or didn't or my mother. I felt strange. sort of dirty and horny and exposed and unconfortable. I often wet the bed as a child and sometimes I slept with my parents or on their floor. why does it bother me so much about nudity? in bed and with sex? as a child I would streak through the house in the nude after a bath and it was not ment dirty . I would walk around the house nude til my mother made me put on pjs or whatever. but even today I have nudity hang ups at times. I don't know how comfortable I would feel being completely nude with a man straight away. it did not feel good when I was with the first man who date raped me. I like to explore and I love to touch mens clothes and jeans and business suits. I love to smell their body in their clothing. I like the idea of having sex with a man in my bed with him half dressed ... I don't need full nudity, maybe eventually I could. but I like the idea of sex that is kind of so passionate you do it with the clothes half on. its like those scenes of women in porn being groped and forced into sex in some hay stack or the castle where the lord or king takes his wife or the maidens nighty up to do it do her. I like the idea of fucking on the floor and unexpectedly. I like foreplay as well ... I just want a man who can give me the sex I like and in time I will get used to the fully naked stuff. I love old fashioned stockings and suspenders as well with sex. and bustiers that let my boobs full out at the guys face. : ) my hang ups are many and they have origins in childhood. how you are dressed and what you are doing is just as important to the status and genre of the type of sex you will have ... anyway that is just as important to me as with who its with. I am not really into oral sex but might be with the right guy. I don't really go for anal or having fingers pushed up my bum or stupid shit during sex. I like for a guy to be sexy passionate and a little dirty but not stupid. I can't stand man I have seen in some porn films go at a womans clit and pussy like they are stuffing a chock or act so chauvinistic about the act of stimulating a womans parts for sex. he should do it with her feelings in mind and look to her eyes and expression to see how its going. heaps of "I love you' and some dirty talk is ok so long as you are not over doing it. a womans eyes during sex and touching will tell you a lot about her pleasure ... there maybe fear, blushing and even pain involved in sex even when its with someone you love. I like kissing and licking and teasing. its all about keeping the pussy sweet and wet really with words and actions. sometimes a good pounding goes a long way for a woman as well, but that there is room for exploring sex at a variety of levels . like tantric sex and boob jobs etc. I want to look pretty for my guy and for him to look gorgeous for me. mutual lust and love is important for real love.