about a year ago my mother suffered a stroke. when things like this happen you find out things about your family that is unfortunately disappointing. i know that my mothers health was not the best - she abused her body for years (obesity) and was only getting her life back on track (she had gastric bypass). if not for the surgery she most likely would have died. i am only 28 years old and now had to make the deicsions in regards to my mothers health - her brother and sister do not work in her best interest. they left me to deal with figuring out where to take her for therapy, to get her social security, to get her medicaid, take her to dr visits - everything. she had her stroke in september, i was to be married in november. so i had to work my full time job, i was also attending school at night, plan a wedding and now take of my mother. my new husband and i accepted responsibility. my sister is younger than i am and not financially stable so it was up to us. it took me 9 months and 2 seisures to get my mother finally approved by medicaid and take her home. my sister gives minimal help, my family i basically need to beg for any help - with the exectpion of 2 aunts who have their own health problems (cancer and heart). i have had to put my education on hold b/c i have no one to stay with my mother while i would have been in classes. my new husband and i had to move to another apartment so that my mother can get up and down the stairs. it is like having a small child. i have to get up to put her braces on her so she can go to the bathroom, change the sheets b/c she wets the bed at night. she cannot talk well so i play guessing games all day to try and figure out what she wants/needs. i find myself hostle with her - i know she didnt ask for this to happen to her - with my husband, at work, with everyone. i dont have anytime for me and i am beginning to resent my mother for it. i cant be intimate with my husband at the drop of a hat b/c my mother is always here. i cant just go to bed early b/c i am tired b/c i have to put my mother to bed and it isnt fair to ask her to go to bed early b/c of me. my sister does nothing except take her to a movie every now and then on a weekend and does nothing but complain about how dare i want to go to a wedding, or a party or on a vacation b/c it is inconvienant for her. i find myself wanting to just up and leave and let the rest of my family figure out what to do with my mother, but i dont want to punish her. i am very resentful and hostil and hate myself for feeling this way. i find myself thinking horrible thoughts about the worst things that can happen and what my life would be like after that.