I'm sorry but If I was your husband I wouldn't even look you in the eyes. Your too fat and need to lose weight. Not trying to be mean but nobody likes a fatty. The ones who say they do are just justifying they do because they can't get a good looking girl. Or they are hungry. Don't bother having a affair no one in they're right mind would sleep with you. If they wanna entertain themselves and see big things flopping around they would go to sea world and see Shamoo.

Yup. You hit it dead on. Sorry, it is what it is. Im a guy, we can't hold out for that long. Maybe we masturbate in exchange for sexual thoughts, but we do and will get it elsewhere. Look for someone that will love those curves girl. You dont need the guy.

if he's not getting it from you then he is definitely getting it from someone else

your husband is a shallow prick.If ever you would want to loose weight you should do it for yourself for your well being and for no one else's if he doesn't love and accept you for who you are then someone else will.

Hello. he is destroying your self esteem. Tell him there are other men that find you attractive. Don't waste your time with Mr. super model. Find a man that truely loves you for who you are. Good luck girl

Hi everyone, thank you for your honest advice. My husband flatly refused to have counselling and told me I'm the problem not him. He denies having an affair and in all honesty I would know because he would tell me. He's just that way. He has had an affair in the past (before we were married) and told me. I stooped to his level and cheated on him also and told him. This all happened before we were married. That was about five years ago. A few days ago I had a heart to heart with him and now in the night he gives me snuggles but that's about it. We haven't made love for over one year now and I'm afraid to make the first move just in case he turns me down. I would be shattered again! Last night he spooned me and I gently pushed my bum towards him and made a few sexy moans but nodda.. I give up! He has made me feel like I'm worth nothing and I look like shit. I look in the mirror and I see I've lost that spark I once had in my eyes.It has taken a toll on me and I'm at my wits end. Watch this space....

Uh, yeah, there's something up with your husband, hate to say it. My wife's weight has bounced around since we've been married and I love her either way. If anything, she just gets more curvy in all the right places and I love her soft tummy. She isn't "fat." There sounds like there might be a control issue at work or he's just making excuses for his own poor self-image that he's projecting onto you. I would suggest demand counseling or you're getting a divorce to show you're serious (and mean it). You deserve a loving husband and there are plenty of guys out there would love to get their hands on your curves. You don't have to put up with some guy putting you down every day just because you married him. That isn't the deal. Now, if he wasn't being a jerk, and simply lost his sex drive (which happens), you can certainly explore what he might need for some extra spark (though I don't think this is the case here). Or if he was otherwise a good partner, but just isn't into sex for the moment, then I would suggest maturely explore having an "open" marriage so you can satisfy your natural needs. That might actually give him a start. But, again, he's being a jerk for some reason, so I think the fundamentals of the relationship need some counselling. Best of luck!

Whatever you have said hear must be told to your husband & make him understand what you really need.

cheat on him, he is cheating on you. or leave him

Forget that sorry ass poor excuse of a husband and divorce his ass. Their are plenty of gentleman in this world who wish for a womans touch and to caress a womanand to spend the rest of their life with. Just to have a companion by their side and the warmth of another every night they go to bed. Dont let life and a great companionship of another pass you by. It might be the best decision you've ever made. Just saying..... Good Luck, and dont give up on you.

I love thick chicks! You need a man who can love and appreciate you for who you are.