My wife determines my bedtime
Posted Oct 24, 2014 by anonymous | 361 views | 8 comments
I've been with my wife for about 14 years now, and this has finally gotten to the point where it's causing strife in our relationship. First off, she makes most of the money. She has a very high-stress, but high-paying job, which allows me to keep my low-stress, low-paying-but-family-friendly job. We have three children, and I do 90% of the upbringing. I also do about 90% of the housework. I figure it's my job... I'm the more domestic one, since I work and get paid less. Together, we make a nice combo. But the one thing that really, really bothers me is: she gives me shit if I am tired before she is ready to go to sleep. Like, if the kids are asleep by 8pm, and I'm tired, I still have to stay up until 10pm (her bedtime), to make her happy. And, if I do ever say I am tired before the bedtime she has determined is good for me, she asks me why I am so tired? And I'm like "What difference does it make? I don't have to justify my tiredness to you. You're not my mother, you're my wife." And she just gets pissed and throws it back in my face that she's under a lot of pressure at work to provide our upper-income-bracket lifestyle. But, I want to say, "What does me going to sleep earlier than you have to do with the pressure you are under at work?" But I don't say it. I just drop it. It's not worth fighting over. At least, it hasn't been worth it, until lately. I'm just tired all of the time. When she asks what I want to watch on TV at night, I say, "I don't even want to be awake right now. I couldn't care less what's on this screen." And she gets pissed. Is anyone else in the same boat? Is this normal?
Commented Oct 26, 2014 by anonymous
HA
Commented Oct 25, 2014 by anonymous
You fucking loser. The first time she gave you any lip you should have smacked that bitch in the head so hard she was seeing stars. And keep smacking her to keep her in line. Bitches need to know who is boss.
Commented Oct 25, 2014 by anonymous
I bet she fucks you up the ass. Fucken BITCH.
Commented Oct 25, 2014 by anonymous
Tell that fucken BITCH to get her ass in the kitchen and fix you a sandwich.
Commented Oct 25, 2014 by anonymous
All you asswipes need to go to Opra holy fuck !!!!!!
Commented Oct 25, 2014 by anonymous
Grow a fucking pair and put her in her fucking place! Your the man of the house and looks like she done made you the bitch! Let a woman take advantage once and she'll always take advantage! Grow a fucking pair and put your fuckin foot down! Your foot either goes on the ground or in her ass! Be a fucking man!
Commented Oct 25, 2014 by anonymous
Your wife sounds a lot like my girlfriend. Both make more money. My girlfriend.feels a false sense of entitlement over me because shes 11 years older and makes more money than me. All she does is nag and bitch and boss me around. At least the sex is good.
Commented Oct 24, 2014 by anonymous
I'm sorry, it sounds like a high stress lifestyle. In all honesty, I can sort of relate to her (not justifying her actions, it's wrong). When I was younger and had night anxiety, I used to hate my brother going to bed and being left alone. It would often cause conflict and he would often stay up for me. It's completely wrong and unfair, and I wouldn't dream of it now. Perhaps she doesn't want to be left alone? Maybe after a long day of high-stress working, she just needs some companionship. That's not to say that I think you should force yourself to deprive yourself of sleep, you should TRY to find other ways to spend time together. Your energy levels on the other hand: If you're very tired, try taking a melatonin supplement before you go to bed. It's the sleep hormone that your brain produces and you can't OD on it. It will help you have a deep restful sleep. Ideally, sleep at least 8 hours and make sure you're in COMPLETE darkness, otherwise your hormones will be effected. With the combination of raising children, housework, a career and conflict between you and your partner, stress is likely to be a prominent issue. Find a way to de-stress. As "granola" as it sounds, try a few minutes of deep breathing/meditation in when you get the chance. It is SO effective and de-stressing. Lastly and most importantly, PLEASE do not keep this from your wife. Discuss this with her in a pragmatic and empathetic manner. What she's doing is wrong, but try not to persecute her, try to understand why she's acting this way and voice your opinion with total honesty. I hope this helps.