my marriage or my other man
Posted Mar 2, 2011 by anonymous | 145 views | 2 comments
My husband is an emotional vacuum. Like many men he cannot express any feelings other than anger. Despite several warning shots he was astonished when I said I wanted to seperate. He says I am messing up everything, family, finances and his plans for early retirement. We have done the marriage therapy thing and I realize I have changed and it's not all his fault. Now he is promising anything to keep me. I have met someone else who is married with younger children. My youngest is 15. It is not a physical affair but we love each other. He doesn't love his wife but does not want to leave because of the children. But staying with my husband for financial reasons is not very honest.
Commented May 25, 2011 by anonymous
Seems real cut & dried to me; you know you're wrong even considering this but you come to perfect strangers for validation and acceptence for the wrong stuff you're about to cast on other people. Nobody but those involved have a stake in the outcome, so why not ask them? I guess doing that would require -character-. Never mind.
Commented May 25, 2011 by anonymous
'warning shots'? Is this a substitute for communication? You made promises to your husband, whether you choose to honor them now or not,. If he's remained faithful to you, it's incumbent on you to do likewise, lest you screw up a whole bunch of people's lives due to your own self-centerdness. What are you THINKING? Most likely, the reason you're unhappy now is that you found this potential 'new thing' that's more intriguing than what you already have. Tell you what, explain your feelings to this man's current WIFE and if she agrees it's cool, go for it. While you're at it, put all the kids involved in the same room and try to reason with them why you single-handledly destroyed two families.