Married to the wrong person
Posted May 27, 2013 by anonymous | 321 views | 8 comments
My husband and i dated for 5 years before we got married. We have never had a strong sexual connection even at the very start it wasnt great. but i gave him a chance because I thought he was a nice guy. I ended up marrying him because I thought he would be a good husband, father and life companion. 2 years after marriage I dont know if that is enough.... our relationship lacks any romance or passion....We dont talk as much as we use to and the sex has gone from bad to worst. He doesn't notice that I am not enjoying sex.... when we do have sex he doesnt even initiate the sex that we have.... I am not passionate about him at all....and I dont think he is about me either. i tried talking to him about it but that didnt help.. he didnt even try to change anything. I tried showing him what I like in bed ....but when we start and he gets excited he forgets about me.. it more of a hurry up and cum situation...which turns me off completely... He wants to have kids and buy a house but I am scared of being trapped any further I wish I could leave but my family loves him and I dont want to hurt him. I wish I could be with someone who I deeply and passionately love both as a friend and lover. .. I about slightly depressed about it..... I took my vows and I feel horrible at the thought of wanting to breaking them.... my relationship just feels so incomplete
Commented May 30, 2013 by anonymous
whats more wrong is to stay with somone you dont love. youre not helping him out, helping yourself out, or helping your family out. truth hurts of course but its way more beneficial in the long run for everyone. you will feel a lot of guilt but that is something you have to deal with, mistakes are made you must forgive yourself. you will understand better and see better as time goes on why it was right to leave. no children are healthy raised in a loveless home. not good for anybody. its just between a short term hurt now, or a long term hurt later.
Commented May 27, 2013 by anonymous
that happened to me, I have the best of both worlds
Commented May 27, 2013 by anonymous
You have a hard decision to make. You're not married to please your family. Do what you need to do for yourself whether it's to remain in the relationship or to leave. Your family's opinion of him doesn't matter much.
Commented May 27, 2013 by anonymous
Remain friends.
Commented May 27, 2013 by anonymous
ill tell you right now it aint gonna get better u will have kids and then ur kids will be happy but mommy wont once u have kids it will all get worse u think the sex sucks now and the romance just wait till u have kids.... get out now u have the same problem as I had.. u love him but your not in love with him.
Commented May 27, 2013 by anonymous
You have a good man so fight for him. Love isn't just a feeling, it's an action. Push through it and really put in whatever's necessary.
Commented May 27, 2013 by anonymous
I think you know the answer. You would be better off as friends. It's OK! Just get out before you get pregnant.
Commented May 27, 2013 by anonymous
it sounds as tho u do love him....but this is the test n ur marriage I understand tht u have tried but I thnk tht u hve to isolate yourselves ftom society nd wrk on the things each of u guys like