hell yeah it matters you gained weight and he no longer see's you as a hot women he only see's a friend a close friend!!! cause if he's not fucking you he's not into you anymore!!!

thats sad srry bout that

Thanks everyone for all your positive advice. I've tried everything in the book to try and make it work but I haven't given up all hope yet. I will let you know how we get on later. By the way, I would never cheat as I wouldn't want to be cheated on either. I truly believe what goes around, comes around. Thanks again x

Try to have some lovable chitchat with your husband that can refresh in the relationship. Spent as much time as you can with your husband.

Do whatever you can to save the marriage. Try to spice things up in the bedroom somehow, and create different fantasies for both of you to enjoy. The thing is, if you don't communicate with eachother, and tell him you're serious about how you're feeling, then the problem is never going to be resolved. As for the weight issue, why don't you two hit the gym together and have fun. I would love it, if I had a girlfriend who wanted to be in the gym with me, and spend time together. You don't even have to be in the gym, see if you could go out rollerblading, play tennis, anything that gets you moving and keeps you active, whilst doing it together, and really just bond. I hope everything works out for you guys. All the best.

I'm a guy been married almost 2 years and sex wise im failing i just dont feel like it no more, we used to have sex 2 to 3 times a day now it takes weeks although i get hard all the time and im always thinking of sex i just dont feel like doing it anymore. sometimes i fantasize doing it with someone else instead. maybe i got married too young or i wasn't ready to be married, im only 22 by the way

Your marriage is on a downward spiral which can be reversed if you BOTH want to save it. I'm divorced now and remember when I was right where you are. I wish I could reverse the clock and go back to this point and make a different decision. I've got something now you don't have...perspective. If you truly don't love each other and there are no kids to consider, then you should probably have a very honest and serious talk with him about the future of your relationship. You need to get his attention and make sure he really knows how you feel. You might actually get him to be honest about how he feels, too. Whatever you do, DONT cave in to the cravings and cheat on him. Just don't do it. You'll hate yourself and regret it for the rest of your life, even if he never finds out. You've got to change things up, do something different, get some help....if you feel like he and you and your relationship is worth it. You may wind up divorced, but you owe it to yourself to put in the effort and make sure it's the right decision. I know people who have divorced and remarried later because the time they spend apart eperiencing the other side of the fence and realizing that the grass was not any greener. Just put some serious effort and thought into it before you call it quits. You may find, after you're divorced, that there is still love there, but it was buried under all those stresses of life and issues between you two and a million other little irritations that build up over time living together.