I hate my in laws. I do not want to deal with those family problems that my husband has. I feel overwhelmed by his family. I love my husband, but I really do not want to deal with his family. I feel used. THEY looked down on me, and then expected me to help them? And my husband has this HORRIBLE family secret. Just thinking about it disgusts me. His stepdad raped his sister (father raped his blood daughter...she was only 11/12. WTF???) and then his mom just left, and never reported it to the police. Her daughter was pregnant. The mom kept the baby and raised the grandchild as her own. And his sister is obviously still scarred. The grandchild is 11 now and her sister/mom was beating on her for the past 5 years after my husband moved out. Sister/mom had another baby when she was a teenager who is 6 now, and that child is one of the most spoiled rotten shits I have ever come across. One gets treated like a princess and the other gets treated like a slave. Sometimes I feel like she(MIL) pretends it never happened. I wish he never told me. Then I get sick with anger when I think about how many years his stepdad abused them physically and emotionally. And all those years of abuse where he nearly killed her first son and broke so many of his bones, and she knew about it and never left? Then when she left it was TOO LATE. Sometimes I feel like my MIL, though she is a nice person, was a DUMB person, trapped and stupid. She was raised better, her father was a senator of their province before he died! My husband just found out a couple of months ago that his stepdad was not his real dad. He grew up thinking that piece of shit was his dad his whole life. They act like their family is so good, even though their family have the saddest and darkest secrets! And here is my secret. I told the granddaughter who her real mom is. I didn't want her lie to touch my baby, and I felt so sorry for her because she didn't understand why she was treated like shit for so long. She kept thinking my baby was her niece, so I told her no, the baby is her cousin. And leave it at that. We always refer to them as his nieces, both him and I. Poor hubby was confused for a really long time. And there is MIL saying nothing, and that sick fuck of a man is still out there... Probably abusing more people. I am getting tired of my husband too. He is still really depressed and traumatized about his past. He used to hit me too. Not just a slap but a choke. And much more. I hit him back, because I am not going to be a weak bitch. After awhile I started hitting him first when he said the stupidest shit to me. I told him, back before I knew that was his stepdad, that he was going to be like his dad, because he kept hitting me. I pointed out what if he raped his own daughter? What if it was in his blood? He got so mad and started saying lots of fucked up things to me. To tell the truth, I probably deserved it. But, since I was molested as a child, A PART OF ME was really scared like what if it happened one day? Their mom(MIL) never talked to them about the things that happened to them. Kinda just threw all those years under the rug. And I hate her for it. I know my husband and I know he would not INTENTIONALLY do something like that. But now that I think about it he does the stupidest irrational things to get back at me. So now I am getting scared like what if he did it just because he was mad? Also, when my husband is sleeping, he is so used to touching me when I walk or brush by on the bed. He always has a tent or his penis is sticking out when he's asleep, so sometimes we do a little stuff when he's barely even awake. So what I am afraid of is what if one of his nieces or the baby when she's older just walk by or brush by, and he pulls them on top of him? I'm sure they would be so afraid and either run, or just sit there as he unintentionally molests them. While HE IS ASLEEP. Oh I am so afraid of that! And all because of what happened to me and his family history. It is so stressful to me. I am having his family that is staying with us, move back. His family also brings stress on me too, since I find it hard to also financially support the family I already have. My husband doesn't work so it's just my income. It is only enough for the 3 of us, and his family doesn't really help out so much. Paying a bill here and there. And then I have to buy his nieces clothes and stuff because their own parents won't do it. Also, whenever his mom goes anywhere, he doesn't watch them, and it is just me, and half the time they don't even listen and throw disgusting attitude that makes me just want to slap the shit out of them. The smaller one bullies my daughter. So OF COURSE I don't want that little brat in my house. But my MIL, she just pushes too much shit on me, and then complain about me to my husband in the most passive manners. Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest.