Lost The Spark...
Posted Dec 7, 2012 by anonymous | 355 views | 3 comments
My girlfriend and I have been having some discussion lately. We are two months shy of our first year together and I've never been with anyone for this long before, she hasn't either. Recently whenever we are about to get intimate she does it like if it was a shore or some duty she has to do to please me, which turns me off and makes me feel unwanted. She told me she lost the spark from that fresh new relationship... and I don't know what to do (I lost it too but I'm still attracted to her), our sex live have become a routine because of my size and I can only try a few positions that works and won't hurt her. So my issue is how do I make her want me more or get back that spark and any tips to spice up the relationship in and outside the bedroom. I'm not the cheating type I've never cheated before but I'm worried I might if we keep having this issue in bed, and the last thing in the world I would wanna do is hurt her and ruin the relationship because we already have other issues to deal with...
Commented Dec 10, 2012 by anonymous
This might sound crazy, but if your size is a problem, in addition to the creative foreplay focus, you might want to scale back from using the real deal all the time and go with a series of escalating sex toys of her choice, starting at a size she feels most comfortable with and slowly work up over a period of months, either on her own or in conjunction with you, using gradually larger and larger toys until she can comfortably accommodate you. The body is surprisingly pliant, but it needs a gradual, incremental process to get up to the larger sizes (I speak from experience, and it's a fun process). This could be an incredibly sexy journey together.
Commented Dec 10, 2012 by anonymous
Oh, geez. You guys are in a great position to get creative now that you are beyond the honey moon stage in your relationship (happens to all of us). It's time to break out of the routine and explore your fantasies. Don't be satisfied with the status quo. Consider looking through some sex guide books together at the bookstore or going to an adult "toy" store (that's fun, believe me). Relationships are a process. You can peel back layer after layer of discovery. Also, women are arousal oriented as opposed to penetration and release oriented like men, so it's time to get into foreplay big time. Sex doesn't just have to be about intercourse and if size is an issue, there are a ton of other things to do that eventually result in release anyway. Take heart. You are at the beginning of an exciting new journey, not the end.
Commented Dec 8, 2012 by anonymous
Since you are so well hung you have a lot going for you. However, if the spark is going or gone, maybe you could try oral sex. Most women like this. Especially if you are gentle.