There's this guy I met about a year ago. Our relationship has mainly been that of a friendship and also has consisted of not speaking with one another for periods of time. They say time heals, right? So, I always continually give in and contact him in some way (AIM, phone, school) when we've been away from one another. We gain that friendship back, and no sooner after does he do something which causes that chain to loosen once again. He never remains consistent and (whether he realizes it or not) never keeps the love mutual. You feel in the end you're confiding with a brick wall. He's quite the difficult person. Never really giving you an honest answer from a 'What's up?' or 'How are you?'. Or at least not telling you everything. He hides his emotions daily and lives a life of no feeling among the public. He walks around, smile remaining always on his face. Yes, it is nice to see a smile on the face of someone in the world we're living in today, but, c'mon, who's that happy? It upsets me to see him living a lie in that matter, not showing his true self and not being honest to others, and he himself too. He's confided in me a whole lot and insists that I'm one of the most amazing people he's met in his life. And when he is being himself, he's a wonderful, beautiful person. I see so much potential for him in his future. As intelligent of a being as he is, he could honestly make something out of himself one day. This past summer of 2006, we had 'regained' that friendship back of ours. (We hadn't been talking with one another after yet another problem he caused). But, so far, he hasn't been too bad with upsetting me or anyone for that matter. I've said this to a friend of mine, 'He's much like a dog. When he does something good, you must praise him for it. For if no praising, the dog will never learn right from wrong.' And in that case, it goes the same for children too. I have been acknowledging the way he has been treating others lately, and I have been commending him for it. I recently told him once, 'You have been very considerate of others.' I truly think he needs people to praise him for his good deeds. For without them, he'll continue to involuntarily/not-purposely hurt those he does not mean to hurt. Over this summer, he has been gaining 'supposed' stronger feelings for me. The causes of this being our late 3-4 hour phone conversations, our times together in person, etc. If I'd been with him, there'd always be that kiss goodnight (which to me, means a lot), a hold of a hand, etc. He knows the type of person I am, and he knows that I'm not one you should be 'messin around with' in matters of relationships. He knows I've liked him since day one, and I hope he would never make a stupid move to mess up our friendship entirely. Anyways, over this past summer also, I've gained a new friendship. That of, with a girl. She's an amazing person. We have loads in common (including the fact that she too has liked this guy for as long as she can remember, and she too has had a 'history' with him). Well, something happened between the two of them (whether or not if 'it' actually meant something, I'll never know). But, as always, I uttered no more than an 'Oh' when I found out about their rendezvous. I'm not one to get upset very easily. So, beings as an event such as this would occur, I had not much of a reaction to it. It's not like it was the first time for something like this to happen. Yes, he also had one time with another friend of mine before also (don't worry, it's no more than kissing that was involved [for both instances]. At this point, I don't know where to go next with this situation I've been wrapped tightly in for nearly a year. I care so entirely much about him. I swear that my heart has been taken from me. I have been told by close friends of mine to just forget about him. He's 'Bad news' or a 'ham'. But, that's easier said than done. For all those who have took the time to read this, thank you. I'm in desperate need of guidance and your advice would be strongly appreciated.