
I have no idea
Posted Dec 10, 2012 by anonymous | 318 views | 3 comments
So this past summer, I started a Long Distance Relationship with my girlfriend of nearly two years. As a result, we often fought, a lot, about all types of stupid, pointless shit. On one such occasion (about a month and a half ago), I broke up with her out of anger. The very next day, I drive the 120 mile trip (one way) to apologize and fix things. She agrees she doesn't want it to end and all is well. A few days later, she breaks up with me saying she can't be with me. I tried for a little over a week to fix things with her, but she was not interested. As a result, another massive fight ensued, which ended on bad terms for both of us. Consequently, she went out to a frat party got drunk, and proceeded to "try and meet new guys to forget about me" (her words). That ended in her babbling on to some interested guy about me until she threw up on him. At that point, she wanted to fix things, but I was too off put by the idea that she had moved on so quickly (trying to meet other people) to want to fix anything. But she begged and pleaded and explained and justified and as of right then, we decided we would talk when she came down for winter. It was mutually stressed that we were not together, nor were things fixed, but that we did think we owe it to ourselves to talk and see where we stood. Last night, out of frustration (both physical, emotional and mental), i went out and made a bootycall of another ex girlfriend. Afterwards, I felt weird. I felt a tinge of disgust for myself, but I could not really try and make myself feel worse because I was simply a single guy. There were no feelings attached to this incident on either side, just purely physical. Now my most recent ex is coming down to see me tomorrow, and to talk and see where we stand. Honestly, I do love her and i'd love to make things work between us, and there is a good probability that she feels the same. I guess at this point, i'm just asking where do I go from here?
Commented Dec 11, 2012 by anonymous
You must be continue with the relationship with what you are going with.
Commented Dec 10, 2012 by anonymous
By the way, if throwing up on some guy for your sake isn't a sign of love, I don't know what is. I would grab this girl whatever you need to do. She's a keeper.
Commented Dec 10, 2012 by anonymous
Wow, you have to admit, there's a strong attraction and you've both had the opportunity to move on already, but you keep coming back to each other. I think other than the logistics of a long term relationship, you're in pretty good shape. Long distance is hard and this seems to be the problem, and maybe trust. I'm biased as I have an open relationship with my wife and flings on the side are a non-issue (we can either have them or not have them as we desire and as opportunity arises). We're together because we love each other and not because we can't have sex with anyone else. I really think you need to sort out how you two can get together or how you can manage on your own without sex. The arguments are probably the result of frustrated sexual energy. On the other hand, if you are the jealous sort and can't handle or trust your girlfriend to have harmless flings while you apart, then you'll probably go nuts and not be able to handle it. But, then, what are you going to do? Phone sex? In short, I don't think you have anything to lose if you were about to break up anyway. If you really love each other and are on the brink of breaking up over a little thing like sex, sort out the sex, whatever you need to do.