I am angry that my grandmother didn't leave me anything
Posted Nov 11, 2013 by Mr. Bungle | 148 views | 2 comments
My grandmother was a wonderful woman who lived a long life. I was very close to she and my grandfather and spent a lot of time with them over the years. She peacefully and suddenly died of heart failure about 2 years ago. At that point, she had about $2.5-3M in investments and retirement accounts. I never asked about her will or wealth transfer plans while she was alive, but I knew about the funds via my mother, and actually helped my grandmother track her stocks since I am in a finance-related position. When she died, I found out that everything was left equally to each of her four children, even though one was a deadbeat who does not get along with the other three, and already received a sizable monetary gift in the past, and another is foolish and would likely squander it if a financial planner were not actively involved. I was very happy for my mother, who was able to invest some more money into improving her house, and now has a nice supplemental nest egg for retirement. I have been helping my mother plan and allocate these funds along with her advisor. But I was disappointed, especially for my brother and me. Would it not have been nice for us to have received a gift of cash or securities that we too could put away for retirement, a down payment on a home or the like? I know of a number of people who are forever grateful to grandparent(s) for receiving such an opportunity. Yes, someday, i will get half of whatever remains of my mother's property and other assets, but it still hurts me to feel slighted by my grandmother. I feel greedy and like an a-hole for being this way, but the feelings persist, and I'm ashamed for them.
Commented Nov 11, 2013 by anonymous
stop standing around like a fucking beggar w ur hand out and work for what you want you ungrateful little snot! she was a mother who did what any parent would, she tried to look after kids! ppl like u disgust me, u do some nice shit and in the end u feel u should be entitled to something! I'm glad ur grandmother didn't leave u a penny, obviously she saw thru ur bullshit too!
Commented Nov 11, 2013 by anonymous
Yeah I understand but you should feel how you do. I mean look to a parent you love your kids, dumb, smart, good or bad and they are your world for 18 yearsvat least and their lively hood is your responsibility. No matter what she did someone was gonna be upset. So she did the fair and right thing. You are your parents problem responibity not hers. If she was a smart and trustworthy person, 3m says she was then trust she raised her kids well enough to do the same for their kids that she did for them... Bry...