I am writing about a situation that happened between my daughter (her friend was also involved) and Claudia, of askclaudia.com My daughter had a psychic love reading by Claudia a few years ago having to do with finding someone. She told me about the reading and the things that psychic told her as follows not being anything men wanted to love and be with, it being all in her head anyone liked her, getting herself in trouble for assuming a guy liked her when he didn't just because he looked at her, having to be honest with herself about that, and rejection was a part of life. My daughter never had the opportunity to date or had a boyfriend ever in her life. She's been hurt some many times and treated badly. The above reading afflicted her every day because of that. When she felt bad she would repeat the above over and over to me and cut herself down and put herself down because of it. She also repeated the same things to her friend, who would always defended for her, as they had similar experiences. The above ideas put in my daughter's head made her think nobody ever did or would like her or that she'd never find anyone because of those ideas, which gave her emotional distress. If you didn't have to go through your life never dating anyone, having a boyfriend, or didn't have to be alone or lonely or hurt all your life, it's hard to understand why those ideas would cause emotional distress. But it did and it was real. Because of that distress, apparently my daughter and her friend had both written to that psychic about how the reading afflicted her over the last few years. I hope because of that, she realizes how bad she afflicted her with the things she said in her reading. She had written to me in May about my daughter writing to her all the time I wrote in response about it. My daughter obviously wrote to that psychic because of the constant emotional distress she gave my daughter with her reading, but didn't seem to understand that. I also talked to her friend who does exist whether she believed that or not, and told her not to write to that psychic either anymore. I hoped she didn't think I didn't know how that reading my daughter said she gave her afflicted her all the time and that I would have anything to say about it. If she would have sued my daughter, although she wouldn't have gotten any money out of her or us because none of us have any, I would have filed a counter claim because I know how that reading affected her all the time, and thought she should accept some responsibility for why she wrote to her, which was because of the emotional distress she gave her with the things that psychic said in the reading, and which obviously started any writing she may have done, and wouldn't have written to her other wise, and should've been understood. I was told about the note that psychic had put on her web site as follows, if this constant harassment of me continues I will report you to the authorities. My daughter should have stopped then. But thoughts were that instead of apologizing to anyone who saw that for having to put that on her web site, who should know how that got started in the first place or why, because of the emotional distress she caused my daughter with the things she told her in a reading, and which would have to be told to the authorities because they'd want to know the reason behind it, she should have at least apologized to my daughter for causing her the emotional distress from the things she told her in that reading first, instead of threatening to report her to the authorities if she didn't stop writing to her and then to sue her if she didn't, because that reading afflicted her to the extent where she was always cutting and putting herself down, made her feel bad about herself, which wasn't right either, and too afraid to try to talk to anyone or meet someone, a real man, who she could finally meet and get to be with and who would love her because she thought no one would like her because she said she had to be something men wanted to love and be with (and emphasizing the words love and with), making her think she wasn't already, and no one wanted to be around her because she was needy. So it got to the point where my daughter would say all the time, if she saw someone else with a guy, I guess they have someone and I don't because they are what men want to love and be with and I'm not and have to be honest with myself about that, or I wish I was what men wanted to love and be with so I could find somebody once in my life, or I guess no one ever told them rejection was a part of life, or I wonder how long they had to work on themselves to become what men want before they got that guy. But it was a good thing my daughter gave her name to let that psychic know who it was she affected so bad with that reading so she could put that message on there. From what I was told by the sound of it, it never sounded like that psychic apologized or was sorry for the way the things she told my daughter which affected her so bad all the time. Thoughts were, she didn't assume that I wouldn't tell anybody she might report my daughter to or any kind of lawyer she may have gotten why she was ‘harassed' because of the emotional distress and how that reading of hers affected my daughter? I wondered if she would fail to tell them that? I was told she apologized for putting the message on her web site but my thoughts were the one and only person she should have been apologizing to was my daughter for the distress. I don't think she should let everyone think my daughter is a wicked person harassing this poor woman who did nothing to provoke it, when thoughts are they should know why the reason behind it and how that psychic affected my daughter with the reading she gave her constantly. But she doesn't put on there or let them know about the emotional distress she caused my daughter with that reading. That doesn't matter I guess, how my daughter was constantly affected by that reading. That isn't right ither. I know it wouldn't have happened or she wouldn't have been written to if she hadn't told my daughter those things in the first place. I wondered if she thought of that. And I don't know what that psychic thought I was going to do. I wouldn't say go ahead sue her, or not take into consideration how my daughter was affected by her reading. I wondered, she didn't think I knew that? I wouldn't yell at my daughter and say what's wrong with you, when I know she only wrote to that psychic because the things she told her in her reading that emotionally and mentally affected her, the way it made her feel about herself. I wondered, that psychic didn't seem to realize or understand that, with no apology to her? I defended my daughter because of our being so close and knowing how she has hurt and has been hurt her whole life and how the reading affected her. I knew about the reading because my daughter has talked to me about the things that psychic told her all the time and put herself down because of them when she was upset or felt bad about something or not having anybody. She went to bed with what she told her in her head and woke up with it. Even my daughter's younger female cousin is married. She's had her fair share of boyfriends and relationships while my daughter has sat and still sits with nobody, never going on a date or had one boyfriend or relationship. Then my daughter is told by that psychic it's because she's nothing men want to love and be with and tells her rejection is a part of life. My daughter missed out on so many things in her life, including dating and boyfriends through her teen-age years, 20's and on and feels like she has no hope of ever finding someone. Then I know she has what that psychic told her in her head all the time, and don't see how she can't see how making her believe she is nothing men want to love or be with or that nobody liked her would make her feel or would affect her when she has yet to find anybody for once in her life. My daughter has always being over looked, put down, nothing working out or changing or getting better, we were homeless once, on the street, she is depressed all the time. And dealing with health problems like not being able to breathe out of her nose or having bad skin for over 20 years, and other problems she hasn't been able to get help for. Somebody my daughter liked who liked her too, leaving before she had a chance to get to know him. She is always sitting without a job after applying and going for interviews or without money all the time. Trying and nothing happening or changing. I wonder if that psychic ever had any of those problems or the problems or life my daughter had. But she would sue my daughter or report her, and try to get some money out of her, which she wouldn't since we have none, and she would go on while my daughter still had what that psychic told her in her head and would still be affected by the things she told her and have the emotional distress she gave her. You can sue people for emotional distress too and wonder if that psychic thought of that. I don't know what she was trying to accomplish by doing that. Threatening to report or sue her wasn't going to stop the emotional distress she caused my daughter with that reading, and the emotional distress she caused my daughter is the reason she wrote to her. It wouldn't have stopped the emotional distress she gave my daughter. That would have gone on. But you can't get money out of someone who has none. I think it's a great thing to do, want to sue someone who has no money at all because she has been out of work for some years, who has hurt all her adult life and has the problems that she does, and who is affected constantly because of something she said to her and made her feel and put in her head. Maybe that psychic never came across anyone or doesn't think there is anyone who could have a life that bad or hurt that bad, or be affected that bad by one of her readings. But she would sue her, while my daughter would continue to struggle and suffer because of the things she told her, and wonder if she would think that's OK? I'm sure that psychic has money and a nice home unlike us, and is lucky she had love in her life. I don't know why my daughter can't find someone to be with in her life, instead of being stuck with me all the time. And yes, not one thing has changed for my daughter at all since that reading. But it's bad enough my daughter going through life being treated badly by people growing up and on, feeling bad about herself because of that. And the way she looked and guys being jerks to her all the time, and her own father not wanting anything to do with her, and her own God-mother picking on her and treating her like dirt because she is mixed, without someone saying to her that she is nothing men want to love and be with or be around or giving her that idea or putting it into her head and that no one ever liked you, and to be honest with herself about all of that. She got that in her head and then she's hurt so badly anyway her whole life and it just builds up. As far as I knew, that psychic obviously never apologized for saying things that made her believe those things when I was told all she could say if this constant harassment of me continues I will report you to the authorities then to write to me and tell me she will sue her if she keeps writing to her, when she had never apologized to my daughter or me for the constant emotional distress she gave my daughter, and didn't think about that or as that being the reason as to why she was being constantly harassed, I mean written to as to how and why the things she told my daughter affected her. That to me is like saying she could care less if she ever does anything to anybody or says anything to anybody that affects them in a bad way or how it makes her feel all the time. And I guess it's too bad if it does, but she can't let her know how it continues. She doesn't have to take any blame or responsibility for her actions and can get away with it. But if you write to her to let her know how she's affected you, that's harassment of her and is going to report you to the authorities and sue you. It works both ways. Thoughts are how can you sue someone who is writing to you, or harassing you to sue her words if you are being harassed, written to only because you gave them the emotional distress that caused them to harass, write to you I the first place? She caused my daughter emotional distress and should take responsibility for that, and how it affected her in her life. I know my daughter never would have written to her in the first place if it wasn't for the emotional distress she gave her with that reading. People do a lot of things when they are hurting, like a cry for help I guess you could say. And I think if you never went through that or went through life being treated bad or picked on by people because of the way you looked that affected you in your whole life and all you do and the way you feel about yourself, and how it affects your life, you have no idea what that is like unless you step in their shoes. Apparently she has no idea what it is like or what it does to you when someone picks on you your whole life or treats you the way they do or says the type of things to you like she did, or how the things I mentioned affects you, along with the things you go through and experience. I wonder, she can't figure out the harassment of her was caused by the emotional distress she gave my daughter. I'm told she said that constant harassment of her was illegal. I don't think telling her that wouldn't stop the emotional distress she caused my daughter, which was unwanted. Thoughts are it seems like it's OK if you are under emotional distress because of what she told you, but don't write to her to let her know how it affects you otherwise she'll sue you. But she writes to me to tell me about it and seems to ignore or overlook the constant emotional distress and how it affected my daughter's life and how it made her feel about herself constantly. What she put my daughter through with the things she told her then she threatens to report her to the authorities if that constant harassment of her doesn't stop, then to sue her. I mean the writing to let that psychic know how what she told her affected her everyday of her life. I don't know what's so bad about that. I don't see why she couldn't just have said sorry my reading affected you the way it did. Seems the above was all she said. It never sounded like she said that. I don't see why she couldn't have just written to me and tell me to tell my daughter to stop writing to her. She had to tell me she would sue her if she didn't stop, (the emotional distress didn't stop after that and she needs relief from that, even though I told her not to let anything that quack told her or said upset her, nevertheless it did and once you get that in our head I imagine it's hard to forget or get out, and I could have wrote to her and told her if the emotional distress she gave my daughter didn't stop I would sue her). First she tells my daughter the things she did and causes her emotional distress, and then she is scaring her too. What kind of person is that? I wonder would it had been different if she suffered in silence and not let that psychic know at all how she suffered and was affected by her reading. If I had just written to her myself to tell her how my daughter was constantly affected by that reading and how it continued, would she have written to apologized? My daughter didn't threaten her life, but the things that psychic told my daughter affected her life. But what my daughter suffered because of what that psychic told her was pretty bad. She was constantly harassed because she told my daughter something that caused her emotional distress. No, I don't think she wasn't being constantly harassed, she was being told how the things she told my daughter constantly affected her and made her feel and that's why the constant harassment of her continued, to put it in her words, because the emotional distress continued. She thought she was being harassed, but she caused my daughter emotional distress first, which brought on any so called harassment. That shouldn't be OK to do to someone either I think. I guess she doesn't understand the harassment, I mean writing continued because the emotional distress that psychic gave my daughter continued. I think she has to stop and think about that and why she was harassed, I mean written to about it. So I don't know how she can call someone writing to let her know how the things she told or put in her head affected her, which was why she wrote to her harassment. It wasn't that she picked her out for no reason. I think she has to understand my daughter wrote to her all the time because she said things to her that affected her constantly in a bad why. I feel she is to blame for being harassed, I mean written to. Things she said were what caused it. My daughter avoiding talking to guys because of what that psychic told her and trying to get over that. I know how my daughter hurts has hurt and how lonely she is and has been all her life, and has tried to hurt herself because of that before. So I wonder what that psychic would think if my daughter would have been successful at killing herself partly because of what that psychic told her and put in her head? I wonder if she'd put that on her web site? If she would have sued her I would have sued her for the emotional distress she gave my daughter for medication to get over it. She didn't apologize to me for that. I get tired of my daughter suffering because of what people do to her. She accuses my daughter of harassment, (as if she was a wicked person singling her out for no reason or like she picked her out and was harassing her because of how she looked, talked or whatever, which was not the case, the way my daughter was harassed and picked on by people her life for no reason, when she treated my daughter no better than those people with the things she told her: not being anything men wanted to love and be with, it being all in her head anyone liked her, getting herself in trouble for assuming a guy liked her when he didn't just because he looked at her, it was her fault she got hurt, having to be honest with herself about that, which she put and cut herself down for all the time for, then making out her to be a bad person, which she is not), when that psychic is the one who started it with and gave my daughter constant emotional distress because of the things she told her. I know she thinks she was harassed, but my daughter was under emotional distress that psychic caused her. I can imagine it's not easy having those things in your head constantly. I don't think she can call someone writing to her because of how or to let her know how things she told them affect, their life, and make them feel harassment. Here is a copy of some of what I had just written to that psychic so you can understand more of the situation: (My daughter constantly felt bad about herself and put herself down all the time and had constant emotional distress because of the things you told her in that reading, which is why she wrote to you and that was her way of letting you know how they hurt and afflicted her all the time, and that shouldn't have been overlooked, and was important in stopping too. So thoughts were you could have asked her nice to stop writing to you instead of threatening to report her to the authorities and then to sue her, and that it wasn't fair to accuse her of harassing you, and I've heard that just because you say that word, doesn't mean it's harassment, when you caused her distress with and because she was so affected by the things you told her in that reading constantly and which continued, and so was why she wrote to you, and not look at her side of it. Scaring her wouldn't stop the constant distress you caused her. Thoughts were it doesn't add up to it when she was only writing to let you know how that reading afflicted her and constantly putting herself down because of it. People can be harassed, hurt, or picked on so bad by people in school or life that it affects them throughout their life and that isn't right either, to let someone or something affected you your entire life or affected or run your entire life, when what they have done or said that affects someone is forgotten or not cared about by them. I don't think you would want your readings to affect anyone like that. Logically my daughter knows none of the things you told her were true and the only reason she hasn't found anyone yet was because she hasn't met the right guy and because those guys were jerks or cowards, not because she wasn't willing to be friends, when none of those guys were willing to give her a chance at all or get to know her or anything, or was scaring them away with her neediness or intensity or because she expected too much like the personal ad guys, (and the guys like them and Ross she knew are the ones who need to work on themselves to become men, not my daughter in order to find someone), or expected too much from guys like the personal ad guys did, and not that it was in her head anybody liked her just because they looked at her, which she knows they did and just looking is all they were capable of doing being the cowards they were who couldn't handle a relationship or a girls attention. She knows it doesn't make her needy just because she wants to be with someone, and doesn't everyone, and that she didn't have to work on herself. But still, subconsciously what you told her was in her head all the time, affected her self-confidence in and kept her from trying to finally meet a real man and the right guy she could be with and who would love her, just as she is and without having to work on herself since there is nothing to work on. It hurts my daughter never having anyone, meeting anyone she could get to know, date, or a have a relationship, and I know that's hard to understand if you've never went through or experienced that yourself or how that feels. Most women date until they find the right guy. My daughter would like to have relationships, love dating, boyfriends, once in her life like you or any other woman, since love is a part of life too. So thoughts were you might say who are you to tell her when she came to you for help when wondering why she never found anyone and had yet to experience and have her first taste of love and dating and relationships because she would like to experience love once after being alone and never dating or having anyone or a relationship with a guy yet, only that rejection is a part of life and imply that she never found anyone because she was nothing men wanted to love and be with, or was scaring them away with her intensity or because she was needy and they didn't want to be around her and had to be honest with herself about that or tell her it was her fault she had gotten hurt for assuming they liked her just because they looked at her which meant they didn't like her and so got herself in trouble, like a girl getting herself pregnant, and then to tell her how after you were married to someone else for 25 years that someone else came along for you, and not to say something positive like someone would come along for her, only that she had to work on herself or was needy, scaring men away, nothing they wanted to love or be with or was all in her head anyone liked her. All of which made her feel bad about herself constantly. But you aren't a bad person for saying that and she wasn't a bad person for writing to you because of it either. I'm not being hostile, and I am just telling you why and how those things bothered and afflicted her and what she made reference to all the time. Thoughts were telling her rejection is not easy to take but is a part of life is like saying she had no right to hurt or feel bad that she never found anyone one, like other people do, when love is a part of life too and should be a part of hers also. Yes, things and people have hurt and treated my daughter bad her whole life for no reason and people don't care or understand why or how she feels or how it makes her feel. It was important for her to get help too, not to just get her to stop writing to you about it. That wasn't hurting you. She shouldn't have wrote to you, but it shouldn't be OK to put ideas like that into someone's head that affects them so bad or makes them feel so bad about themselves all the time. You shouldn't have to feel so bad about yourself because of what someone said or did to you or makes you feel, like with the emotional distress you caused my daughter with the ideas you gave her in that reading, that you want to kill yourself. So, yes, it wasn't like she was a malicious person and not fair to accuse her of harassing you as if she were a malicious person, which she wasn't, picking you out for no reason at all, but was writing to you out of hurt, and to let you know how that reading afflicted her, which was in a bad way, and should be taken into consideration, and thoughts were why you don't have anything to say about the distress you caused her and don't seem very sorry for or care about that. I'm not being hostile, but the distress was important in stopping too. I'm not saying it was OK for her to write to you all the time, but it shouldn't be OK that you can give those ideas to someone, but not to say anything about it or you can't, then that is harassing you. If it was a reading that had a positive affect or influence she was writing to let you know about, that would be different. The writing continued and was constant because the emotional distress you caused her with the ideas you gave her was constant and continued. You might say who are you to be telling her the things you did or that telling her the things you did makes you as much of a bad person for telling her things that afflicted her so bad emotionally and mentally as she was for writing to you, which was out of hurt to let you know how it afflicted her and was the only reason she would write to you and was no other reason she would. I know if you've never hurt that badly or went through things like she did, you wouldn't understand. But it doesn't make you a bad person and my daughter wasn't a bad person for writing to you.) That psychic obviously didn't think she was a bad person for telling my daughter that stuff, even though it afflicted her badly, so she shouldn't think my daughter is a bad person for writing to her, (which was because of the emotional distress that psychic caused her), because she isn't.