I was with my fiance for more than 4 years. In the last 6 months of our relationship, he started changing. He started criticizing me and it always seemed that he was too busy on weekends. There was also one instance when we were at the mall, his phone rang and he ran out to answer the call. He said he doesn't have service & he couldn't hear his daughter. Usually he answers his calls from him daughter even when I'm around. He was also always running out of money and I started paying for dinner, movies, and other things. I had that gut feeling that he was cheating. I started getting annoyed and I guess I was wrong for confronting him before gathering my proofs. His explanation was his friend, Anan, and him have been working on this project on film-making. I thought to myself, 'His friend sells foot accessories in kiosk in the mall the whole day even on weekends. When do you plan to do your film project?'. I started snooping around...starting with his bills. 2 numbers kept showing on his bills at least 20 times per day. He was going over his minutes & even his free 1000 nights & weekends were being used up. I googled the phone number. Anan's real name came up. I googled the other number...it was a cellphone also under Anan's real name. What I couldn't fathom was, why would Anan call him every five minutes or early morning around 7 am & late at night around 11 pm. That was strange. I called the cellphone number at around the time that my would usually receive the 'call' ...it was a girl. She was East Indian. I couldn't believe it. He was having an affair with his friend's wife. She was only 19 & Anan looked like he was in his early 40s. By the way, my fiance was 45 y.o. How sickening is that? He has a 16 y.o daughter. I confronted him about it and broke up with him. He was denying it and was telling me that it was just a friendship. Yeah right. A friend would not call me at least 20 times a day for six or more months. He was also so sloppy that even the teenage girl's love notes on a sticky pad was left in his car. It had 'I love you's in it, 'Come on top of me', 'love me now', 'It's me Princess Jasmine' (they even had a code name)....eeew. I threw it back at his face when I saw these. I was devastated. He chose her over me. This girl was doing nothing the whole day. She made a career of calling the jerk the whole day. I was really devastated when everything came down on me. I was confused for the past months that it was clouding my mind. At the same time, I felt bad for the husband, who's really a nice guy (I met him before these things happened). I was thinking of going to him & telling him that his wife was cheating on him with my jerk fiance but I thought otherwise. Why help the two of them get together and break the nice guy's heart. I'm trying to pick up the pieces of my heart that was broken by this jerk. I had changed my number, moved to another part of town, went out with friends, & am just going through the painful process of forgetting about him. I'm guess I have to be thankful, in a way, that this did not happen while we were married. I would have lost a lot more.