You may have been extremely close to her, but it's still different. The pain he feels is completely different from yours. But, I apologize for being rude. Just leave him then. Just be around for the legal reasons or whatever.

I've tried to help him and talk to him. I have given him everything I can give and he treats me like shit. He used to care about me but he doesn't anymore. He's aggressive and hostile and childish and terrible to me. I have been there for him every time she went into remission and he was happy, and I was there every time the cancer got worse and he was sad. I used to sleep over at her apartment and she and I would go out for coffee and talk about our favorite books and sing karaoke and go bowling and for ice cream. When she was in her final days and couldn't move anymore, I held her hand and sung her some of her favorite songs. As for my boyfriend, I got him the job he has in a corporate office due to my connections in the business and I constantly take care of him, cook for him, clean for him. I treat him well and all he does is belittle me and degrade me for having the dreams I have and for wanting to make a better life for myself. He tells me I can't do it so I may as well give up. He tells me I never do anything for him and holds every dinner he ever bought me or every time he gave me a ride with him somewhere over my head. This was all going on even before she passed. He doesn't tell me I'm beautiful anymore even though he used to and his habits (like leaving food to rot in his room and vehicle) disgust me. I understand that everyone has different ways of grieving but verbal abuse is not an acceptable one. And since I am not returning any of the other guys affections, I don't think it's very wrong. I just have to keep it a secret from him because I am not allowed to have male friends in his book. He is threatened by them. When I did have a couple of male friends before, he made friends with two girls and tried to rub it in my face. When he found out I didn't care and wasn't upset, he got angry and started fights about me having male friends to the point where I can't even mention them without provoking his rage. It's not that I'm scared, either. I just don't want to start a fight. I don't think I'm being that selfish either because he has no concern at all for my feelings but expects me to have a world of concern for his, and it seems that you expect the same.

You're selfish. He's obviously depressed. Yeah, he shouldn't treat you like that. But, you are saying how you also lost his sister too and you " loved her like your own " Get the fuck out of here. That's his sister ! His own blood. You don't feel everything he does. He got worse when his sister died, right ? How the fuck would you feel if you were in his shoes ? I mean, I don't know of you lost someone in your family, like your OWN sister but, it's just pathetic how you sit there and say " IT AFFECTED ME, TOO " Like it was your own sister. Talking to other guys instead of at least trying to help him ? You obviously don't deserve him. He just lost his sister and your talking about how he's now " unattractive " Stop being so goddamn selfish. Fucking pathetic.

Gift you have got is pretty awesome. Might not get a freaky one.