Can't let go.
Posted Jan 11, 2014 by anonymous | 336 views | 5 comments
I became really good friends with my now husband of 11&1/2 years in high school. I ended up pregnant and things were going great until he started drinking heavily and doing drugs. His sisters best friend came to several of the parties he held at the house we shared together. Eventually his attitude and demenor changed towards me and we started fighting all the time. Twice n one night I caught him with his arm draped over this girls shoulder or she was laying on our couch and he was sitting on the floor talking to her resting on her legs. That night I started having contractions 1 month early and we got into a really bad fight. It was 1 week before my 19th birthday to the day. He kicked me out. We continued to talk and if I needed something he would help I even had sex with him 3 times during our split. I later found out while I was in the hospital he had sex with her while he was still sleeping with me. He literally broke my heart. It's beans 10 years and we have since married and added another child. He hasn't been involved with anyone since. I feel like he cheated on me and I have a hole in my chest I can't repair. This girl still comes around because she's his sisters friend. His sister has grown to hate me because she thinks he should be with her friend. His sister and I even got into a physical altercation and her cousin held my arms while she broke my nose. I feel alienated in his family. I love him and he's an amazing man to this day. He works hard and has apologized an ungodly number of times I know he regrets what he's done to me and how he's made me feel but I can't let it go. It's been ten years and I can't let it go.
Commented Jan 12, 2014 by anonymous
We were both virgins when we started dating. I can't blame him for being a promiscuous teenager while we were separated. I just can't get past the pain because the bitch keeps coming around.
Commented Jan 12, 2014 by anonymous
As much as I would LOVE to move away, it's not an option. We own a company together with his parents AND he just bought me a new house 6 months ago. I haven't complained to him about my insecurities in years, so basically I just need to gtf over it.
Commented Jan 11, 2014 by anonymous
You can not let it go the things as they are going.
Commented Jan 11, 2014 by anonymous
I think a fresh start is what the two of you need. Young men have an urge to 'sow their wild oats', especially if he's only been with one or two girls ... It sounds like he got it out of his system ... So move away together, get away from his family so they won't be such a big part of your lives. A new start in a new place can really change things, you only have each other and you meet new people that you can relate to and form new bonds. That's my advice. My wife and I live far away from the drama of her family (moved 320 miles way 4 years ago), and it really improved our relationship, even with our newborn, we're going strong.
Commented Jan 11, 2014 by anonymous
We all make mistakes so you should let things go. You said he has changed so just forget and enjoy your life with him. Do not let others ruin youe life.