I don't know whether or not your post was genuine seeing as it was repeated several times. But I'll give you the benefit of the doubt anyway and offer you some advice. I think you are worth way more than what your husband is trying to make you feel. The evidence for that is that you wanted to lose weight and you successfully did so ,you were at some point an idependent wage-earning woman ,which in turn means that you successfully completed your education. All these things should make you feel proud of yourself and do not give up on your life just because someone is trying to bring you down .He's not worth your time . However ,because I don't know the ins and outs of your relationships , I would suggest that if you love your husband and want to be with him and think that he could change his attitude , then why don't you suggest to him that you both have family therapy to help you overcome your problems which are just part of every relationship , the only differenc is that they come in different forms.If he is not willing to do so , then simply leave him .Do you have any children? If not then I think you shouldn't worry about where you'll go after you leave him,you'll always find somewhere to live and start a new life . It's probably because of his degrading attitude towards you that you have lost your self-esteem and so can't find a job.What I mean is , in order for you to be successful and happy again, you might need to be away from him. As I said , if you have no children to worry about , and therapy didn't go down well with him , then leave , I'm sure there are lots of charities out here that help people like you who are struggling with one problem or another.You could always volunterr with one of those charities that provide accommodation and basic needs in return for the voluntary work you're doing. Don't waste any time , start straightening your life out today.